Never Go To Bed Angry At Your Partner

[Barry]

My parents have been married for 47 years. Not once did they ever go to bed angry at one another. They had fights, lots of fights but they always made up before bed time.

They never once disrespected each other. They disagreed a lot but the never called each other mean names and they were never disrespectful.

Don't know if that will work for everyone, but it worked for them.

[Rob]

That sounds like what I would like as a relationship. They, obviously, have a common ground such as respect, manners (as to behave like adults), but can be different in a lot of other ways, but their love must keep them finding a way to get through.

[Anthonia]

That is what im aiming for in my relationship. That is just ideal!

[Barry]

That is what im aiming for in my relationship. That is just ideal!

They did set a good example for my sister and me.

[Shirley]

My parents never argue and if they do its never in front of us but they never stay bad for long and are soon coming up on their 20th

[Paul]

My parents argued my whole life. They're not even speaking to each other anymore and they got a divorce this year.

[Jerome]

Don't end the day angry

In many marriages, when couples are arguing or fighting, people have a hard time knowing when enough is enough. Both parties are trying to win the argument and someone gets hurt. Either physically or verbally. Once this occurs, resentment will begin to build if the issue is not resolved or re-visited at another time in the very near future. If there is no closure or agreement as to when the couple will re-address this, they will go to bed angry. Come morning, everyone is busy getting the day started so the dispute will become buried.

If the disagreement is over a small insignificant matter, it may be best to let it go. After all, many times one needs to overlook the short coming of their spouse. Major disputes, on the other hand continue to fester, like an infection in the relationship while it ruins the communication. It will most likely resurface at a later time in the partner who is feeling like the looser. In this case it will begin the argument all over again. This is why in many arguments; issues are brought up many months or even years later, after an argument has erupted over something completely different than the first disagreement.

If the disagreement cannot be brought to a conclusion, a couple need not go to bed angry. One can call a time out. Time outs are very easy to observe and will allow a cooling off period. The person that calls the time out must be the one to re-address the issue within a 24 hour period of time. The couple should agree on a time and place to re-initiate the discussion. This will keep the couple from going to bed angry with each other and at the same time will not allow the issue to become buried or ignored.