She's Crushing and now In Love

[Vinroe]

Wife confessed to being emotionally and physically interested in someone from work. So we talked it out and I received honest answers in return. We had at one time discussed an open relationship but nothing ever came of it. This time time we discussed it again and I agreed reluctantly. There has honestly been no progress with the individual she is passing by interested in but I prepared myself for the eventuality of something physical occurring. I however diane expect her to tell me her crush doesn't feel like a crush and she is in love with him. I'm now trying to figure out what to say or handle the situation without making it worse. I'm sure about what to do just not sure about how to go about it.

[Bella]

This is no better way to handle this issue but to allow her follow her heart. Trying to stop her is just going to escalate things. I'm quiet sure what she has for the other man isn't real, so she will eventually realize her mistakes and come running back to you.

[David]

The thought of losing your wife can be very devastating. However, you should learn to get off from questioning yourself, "why my wife fell in love with another man?" It will only get your mind confused what you should do to win her heart back. It will only give you heartache and sadness when you start to wonder why. For worse, you may show out your emotions without realizing that you are looking desperate especially when you try to beg her not to leave you.

You have to live your mind that you can be strong even without her. It is only when you overcome this fear of losing her, you will know how to save this marriage confidently. One thing for sure, your wife will definitely still have feelings for you because your love with her is built over the years and it is not something that can be destroyed over the days or months. This is also one of the biggest assets to penetrate into her heart and save the marriage again.

Be mature and let her see the positive changes in you. Do some soul searching, are you still the same man that she fell in love with initially? Emotional attachment is one important aspect that most women will see. Try hard to bring back the communication into your marriage, let her know that you are not only a good husband but also a good listener and advisor. Make her feel love so that your wife can feel that she is important to this family.

"my wife fell in love with another man" is also not a sudden thing that will appear over the night. It is obvious that something is lacking in the marriage and probably this affair can give her what she wants. So, do not start pushing the blames around saying that it is because of this or that to have this problem. Never try to make her jealous by getting another woman to spite her, this will only push her further away. No pathetic behavior to make her feel guilty towards you as well.

[Vinroe]

Things looked they were going to get back on track since he still hadn't reciprocated her feelings. Now they are just remaining friendly. I still have my concerns. She has given coworkers rides to and from work before but I think the extra time spent outside of work leaves too much open. I told her I didn't want us to become 'roommates'. She says she feels sometimes we do feel like just roommates. She says she's working through some things. I don't know what to do with that or how I should feel. I wanna stay positive etc. but all I feel lately is hurt, confused, with large shot of pissed thrown into the mix. Is there a book somewhere about 'how to get your point across without acting a fool' or 'how to know your spouse's mind when they dont know themselves'?

I see pretty faces and get approached too and I've thought of being preemptive to avoid the on coming storm. All I have to do is say yes to those who have offered.