should I pursue this girl?

[anonymous8989]

I met a girl at work and I do like her a lot. We've gotten to know each other a little bit since we started working together. She has a lot of good qualities and I see a lot of potential in her, I know she wants to do better but she keeps getting sucked into the same lifestyle I.E. drinking, gambling and substance abuse... She is also a single mother with 3 kids, and two of them live with her and her baby daddy. They are not married and she wants to get rid of him she's talked about it several times.

In the last week or so I've started recognizing these problems that she has. Is it worth my time to pursue her, or should I just try to be a true friend and be there for her? I have never used drugs and I never drink or have any kids of my own. But I'm wondering if it is worth the risk. What are the chances of this kind of relationship like this working out in the long run? I'm 28 years old and I'm ready to find a companion and settle down. I do really love her, but I don't want to make things any worse for either of us.

[Mabel]

Since you don't have any kids of your own, you will be making a big mistake if you decide to go into a relationship with her. The reason being that, you will be financially drained as you will be involved in taking care of her kids. Moreover, her kids isn't going to make her give you all the love and attention you desire from her.

I suggest you forget about her and date other women.

[Jerome]

I won't advice my worst enemy to date a girl that is a drug addict. To worsen the issue of this girl, she has 3 kids and still lives with her baby daddy. Even if she doesn't live with her baby daddy, she isn't someone you should consider dating.

You shouldn't think twice about her, you mustn't date her. She isn't the kind of woman you need in you life. She has so much problems that is going to affect you negatively.

Also, trying to be friends and supportive will make your feelings for her grow stronger. So, you should refrain from doing this.

[smackie9]

Rescuing is the wrong reason to get into a relationship with anybody. She has too much baggage, and it's baggage that won't be going away anytime soon. Next, never date coworkers. It's never a good thing, especially when things don't work out. You still have to see them everyday....not worth it.