No oral sex

[gm0070]

My wife refuses to give oral sex. We have been together for nearly 25 years and we were both virgins when we met. I have been faithful to her throughout our marriage and love her loads. However I am so frustrated with the lack of oral sex. She has on a couple of occasions reluctantly given me oral sex, but has always stopped before I cum. As l get older my need seems to increase, but she refuses to do it. I would just love to have regular blowjobs and cum in her mouth. Am I just being selfish and should just get on with enjoying everything else we have together?

[Nicolas]

Hey man,

I'll tell you exactly what you need to do to make your wife like giving you oral sex. First, the question is - why is it that she doesn't like giving you oral right now? Here are a couple of reasons that are stopping your wife from giving you oral:

1. Your are an animal, and when she gives you oral you RAM it down her throat like a raging bull. Stop doing that, it makes her puke. She can't deep throat, yet.

2. You're just too hairy. Hey, it's not easy to give oral to a dude when pubic hair is staying in her tongue and between her teeth all the time. So go shave, shit and shower. It will help you get more oral from your wife.

3. She's really bad at it. She's bad at giving oral, and she knows it. So she doesn't want to humiliate herself in front of you. That might be the case, but probably isn't.

4. She thinks that giving you oral sex isn't worth the effort. Her "Blow job ROI" is just not worth it. So she doesn't want to invest in that "share." More on that later.

If your wife ever gave you oral sex in the past, and then stopped once you got married, or somewhere along the years, it's probably because of reason #4. You became BORING, and probably lazy to please her back. She doesn't see the benefit from giving you oral. The "Why?" or "What's in it for me?" just isn't big enough. There's no such thing as a free lunch. Sure, some women love giving oral to their guy, but they love it for a REASON. Here are a couple of reasons why women like giving oral:

1. It makes them feel powerful to give oral sex to a powerful man. If you've got power, you get more oral sex. It's a fact. I could prove it to you with a mathematical calculation.

2. If she LOVES this guy, and wants to make sure that he doesn't look for oral sex somewhere else.

3. If she's a natural "pleaser" and loves "serving" other people, giving makes her feel good about herself.

4. She is really good at it, and people like doing what they are good at. Especially if it makes you love her back for it.

So, how do you use this information to your advantage? And how do you get your wife to like giving you oral, and stop doing it out of a "chore" or as a "job" on your anniversary?

1. Become more powerful. Work on yourself to become great at something. Make more money, do whatever you can to become more self-confident. This will make you more attractive to other women, which will also make you more attractive to your wife. Which will make her feel insecure and she'll want to give you oral sex out of fear of losing you.

2. Work out. Women prefer giving oral sex to a guy that's fit than to a 300 pound pig. Lose the stomach. It will get you more oral sex, and you'll feel better about yourself. Don't be lazy.

3. Eat her out. Better than ever. It's the rule of reciprocity, if you eat her out like a champ, she'll feel obliged to "pay you back." Don't expect getting anything if you give none, especially if what you give is worse than what she can get on average from any other guy.

[Scot]

So, your wife isn't giving you head as often as you'd like her to? No worries, I'm sure you can get her in the mood for going down on you with the right persuasion tactics. I'll give you 7 simple tips that you can apply now and triple the chances of getting your wife ready and eager to take you in her warm, wet mouth. Apply these tips, and she'll never deny you oral sex again.

1. Shaver, shower and smell great.
If you smell bad, and your crotch is full of hair, no wonder your wife isn't in the mood for sucking you off. Hygiene is number one. Just do it. You'll enjoy the head more anyway, plus, your wife won't have to stop every 5 seconds to take a piece of hair off of her tongue.

2. Don't ask, let alone beg for it.
Asking, or even worse - begging your wife to give you head won't get her in the mood at all. Never ask for oral. She should assume that it's something that she has to do (and, later, I'll teach you how to get her to enjoy giving you head all the time). If you ask, you'll seem pathetic and needy, and that's a turn off to women. It's a fact that women naturally enjoy giving oral more to men that are 100% self-confident. When you are decisive, you get more head. So be more dominant in bed, lead the action. Anyway, never ask for oral ever again, instead - use an indirect method to make it look as if giving you oral was HER idea in the first place. I'll tell you how to do that later.

3. Go somewhere.
It's a good idea to go on a weekend trip with your wife, in a completely new environment and have great sex there. When you go somewhere that's new, it's something that you will both remember. Take a shower together. Make your wife feel young again and beautiful. Every woman wants to feel desired, your wife included. She needs to feel that you want every inch of her body. Take her, lead her, and give her great sex. When you go home, after this experience, she'll feel excited again and great about herself, and she'll reflect this on you, therefore, she'll give her best to please you back and show you her appreciation.

4. Once you get her to give you head, it's very important that you get her to feel great about herself during and after the fellatio. Give her compliments, tell her how great it was - moan loud. All these things will make her feel great about herself and she'll connect these feelings to giving you oral.

5. When she gives you oral, don't force your penis down her throat. Let her go as deep as she is comfortable with it. Often, women are confused when they give head, they don't know whether they are doing it right or not, they may even be scared to mess up and humiliate themselves. That's why you have to be as non-judgmental as possible. Have fun in the whole process, smile, later on - kiss her, hug her, tell jokes. She needs to get comfortable with failing when she's with you. Take the pressure off of her. When she's relaxed and when she knows that she isn't judged, she can play around with your penis without worrying about consequences.

6. Eat her out. Sometimes it's just that simple. You'll get your wife in the mood to give you head if you give her head first. Eat her out as it's the thing you desire most in life, and expect nothing in return. Just do it because you want to do it. And you better want to do it. Give, and you'll get back.

7. Last, but not least, set up a nice atmosphere. A little wine can always help, a nice dinner at your place, turn off the phone, forget about work, just enjoy each other. Put on some nice music. Create privacy, so that you can relax, have sex all around the house, scream and talk dirty to each other. When you can satisfy her better than any other guy, she'll give her best to keep you - oral sex included.

[gm0070]

Thanks for your responses. I don't think that this is a matter of having oral more often. If I never ask and just wait it never happens. In fact I went several years without any form of oral. I already do all the things suggested, I wash, trim, am romantic, passionate, and more than willing to go down on her. I just do not see the problem as if the role was reversed I would get real pleasure from pleasing. It would just be great if one day I could awake to oral without asking, and even better if she would carry on until I finished in her mouth, something that has never happened. I think this is something that will not happen before I die, so just have to live without. Maybe a few female perspectives to my post?

[sex.lover]

no I think it's perfectly ok to want oral. I give it to my girl more than she gives me. I find it better than sex wen I get it

[bunnyhabit]

it is very abnormal for more enjoyment with your tongue than your penis. suggest you visit your doctor to find causes for this dysfunctional result.

[sex.lover]

gm0070 you should keep trying an oral orgasm is better than sex

[mamacitaj]

I posted a long response that said it would go to moderators for approval, likely because I recommended an edible lubricant with a link. Here's the gist of it, if you have questions or need me to expand on anything let me know.

I think it's important to ask her why she does not like to give you oral. Two reasons I can think of are lots of pre-cum (it is like getting boogers in your mouth, ewww) and pain (it can be hard on facial muscles).

To fix the first one, an edible lubricant can help. A girlfriend of mine highly recommends "Wicked Sensual Care Wicked Aqua Flavored Water Based Lubricant, Salted Caramel" and several other girlfriends have tried it and absolutely love it. Two bonuses for the guy, if she likes the taste, she's putting in more work, and wetter is better, yes?

To fix the second one, use one of the lazy blow job positions. If you do a face sitting position except where you're hovering over her, she can lay back and relax (look up fuck face, plumber) while licking & sucking. Just make sure not to thrust in her mouth and let her be in control. Look up the Thigh Pillow Position, that's another more comfortable position for the woman. Another more comfortable one is like the traditional girl on top 69, except without her body fully extended, just sitting wherever is most comfortable for her. My guy likes this last one alot because he loves to see my booty and I like it alot because I can see what his toes are doing and judge when he's *really* enjoying a certain thing, which turns me on even more.

[speaker145]

My statement is not a criticism of you. However, your story is precisely the reason why I say a person should never marry a virgin. You need to know whether you are sexually compatible before you get married. If you are not, you end up in situations like yours where one partner is sexually frustrated and sexual frustration or lack of satisfaction can lead to affairs. . I have been through the same thing you are going through. She does not like performing oral sex. You are not going to convince her to like performing oral sex. The only thing you can do about it is to accept things as they are or start an affair to get your needs met.