Looking for the ultimate solution

[Lost@Life]

I've asked this question on other forums but got lots of bad reactions and no sound advice. I'll be very brief about what I'm trying to do. So I'm a virgin who is pretty much certain to be one until death. Having sexual desire is painful because it only serves to keep me reminded of things I want that I can never have, and I believe it to be the source of my problems. I believe that if I could just eliminate my sexuality entirely and indefinitely, my peace of mind would fall into place and life would be much easier to deal with. I would no longer want women, so I would not be upset at them not liking/wanting me. Please respond with any suggestions or recommendations you have for how to accomplish this. I'm willing to try anything that can be shown to work, including castration. Thanks.

[Lost@Life]

Thanks so much for AAALLLLL these terrific replies everyone! It's going to take some time for me to read through them all.

[Elliot]

You can really get rid of your sexual desire because it natural and it's part of what keeps life going. I think what you need right now is how to attract women to be able to satisfy your sexual desire.

[Sandra]

I won't recommend castration or anything similar because you might end up regretting your actions in the nearest future. The best thing you can do is to distract yourself with activities that you love. If you keep yourself busy, your sexual desire will disappear.

[bryanz]

I'd rather see you check out a sex therapist first, lost@life. I have someone very dear to me in your situation, though he doesn't want to get rid of his sexuality.

[Lost@Life]

You can really get rid of your sexual desire because it natural and it's part of what keeps life going. I think what you need right now is how to attract women to be able to satisfy your sexual desire.

I truly wish I could, but there's so many reasons why this can't happen. I'm 27. I think its too late for me to start. I have physical deformities which make me unattractive. There are also problems with my personality. Women never look at me the way they do other guys. Never have.

[Lost@Life]

I'd rather see you check out a sex therapist first, lost@life. I have someone very dear to me in your situation, though he doesn't want to get rid of his sexuality.

How would a sex therapist help me? They're for sexual dysfunction like ED or premature ejaculation. They don't deal with losers who can't get laid or attract women.

[Lost@Life]

Realistically, what are my options? I know there's psychiatrists, clinical psychologists, counselors, relationship coaches, therapists, etc etc etc... I don't know the difference in all of them to be honest. Which one should I go to?