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So just to start of... I'm new to relationship stuff, nvr had it till now.
Just to provide more information so that I can cover all ground and get more opinion.
So there is this African guy who approached me while I was waiting for the lift at the mall. The conversion started with him asking how's my day and I have a beautiful smile, followed by asking for my number. At that moment I just thought he was being nice like how people I met while I was on my oversea exchange during my University times, so I just chat. I gave my number thinking it is just a friendly gesture to stay in contact like a friend, maybe we just hit off.
So he texted me, always start it off with "hey babe". Which I took it as his lingo and sometimes with the sending kiss emoji. And then, he asked if I was free on the weekend to visit him cause he misses me. At this point, call me dumb or what, I just took the words as normal bcoz I have friends arnd me who text me like that.
So that was the first time I'm meeting him, in the afternoon... and it was meeting at the place he was staying. That was when I felt uncomfortable and asked my close friend what should I do. And she told me to go with a friend or to just change the location of the meeting. I tried asking for a change of the location and it failed with him telling me he was gng to cook and he always sleep in late, so it will be convenient if we just meet at his place and he assured me that he won't pull any funny stuns to hurt or harm me cause I'm special to him. I tried to get that friend since the location changing failed but she was not available to go...
Leaving the part where my friend ain't free to go with me, I went ahead to meet him at his place, with his assurance and that since it is in the day. But I make sure I am aware of my escape route and stuff.
In the end, he didn't cook, saying he overslept and just bought fast food my fight or flight awareness just hit the a notch higher. So while we ate, chat and watch a movie which I find it pretty alright. But after we stopped eating, chatted for a while, him saying I have beautiful eyes and smile he suddenly came close on me. Of course, I rejected like WTF are you trying to do??? And he said he is attracted to me and want me, he just wants a kiss. I was reluctant at first cause it really spooks me out, being Asian (mayb just me) and having no relationship experience...
But I gave in, cause he is attractive and I feel that there may be something more, like a serious relationship. Just so you guys know, everything happened in his room.
So there was the kissing and hugging but his hand started to try and go a little of everywhere, groping me, trying to go under my clothing, removing my clothing and touching me in places that are very private, which I resisted every single time! He even placed my hand on his private part which I felt it being wet and I withdrew my hand immediately!!! And left, ran for my life!!!
After that he tried contacting me and telling me not to leave him hanging or bail on him, he is interested in me and wants to be with me, want me to be his woman. Saying that he wants me and I want him kind of stuff. I did not reply to him till I was much calmer and sent him a super long text telling him how I felt him being disrespectful of me, and trying to land sex on me when both of us don't even know each other on an emotional level. I'm not that kind!
This led him to tell me about his previous relationship which made me mad cause he is like judging me and putting me in the calibre/shadow of that girl (same race as I am) without knowing me and all the more made me mad is he making the statement "I knw I'm not the first guy why so defensive?" and doubting my words when I said he is. He tried calling, I refused to answer, just sent him a text of "I'm not answering. I'm mad at you." He apologises, he did not mean it in any way to hurt me and that this let us understand each other better and can build on a healthy and strong relationship and asked for forgiveness.
I forgive him and met him weeks later, at night. where we met outside, talked about things, emotional things... With the talk, I actually thought he could really be the one, maybe his way of approach is not right but he could be the one. So we went somewhere, we kissed and cuddled, and his hand started to get somewhere again... this time straight into my pants for my V. I resisted at first... when he whispered its gng to be alright, I melted into his arm and let him have it. I have to be honest about this, it actually turns me on. During dinner, he talked about his past relationship which running through my mind is... is he even serious? is he trying to make me understand his past or just boasting he slept with his exs?
After dinner, before he sent me home, we did it again. But this time, he said this, "let's go back to my place, no penetration. Let me eat you up and make you feel good" while holding my hand against his D***. Which I rejected, with the reason I have to get up early for work the next day and he sent me to the bus stop asking if we could spend time together on the weekend, the whole day, at his place...
I knw I'm dumb in this case for letting him did what he did. I did tell him about what I am feeling, how I am feeling how I want the approach of me with him to be. But somehow he is only understanding part of it? When we had our conversation, he doesn't seem to catch half the things I said or put it to heart. So currently I'm just not replying to him. I've talked with my friends abt it and they all said to block him, his weird...
Is this guy even serious about getting into a serious relationship with me??? OR is he just trying to get in my pants for the V???
So far I've only had a crush on a guy for 3 years which I did not confess and we just let things be, as friend. No past dating relationship for me but surely a lot of friends in a relationship/married arnd me, seeing how theirs play out whether good or bad, I guess I do gain something out of it.
Just to provide more information so that I can cover all ground and get more opinion.
So there is this African guy who approached me while I was waiting for the lift at the mall. The conversion started with him asking how's my day and I have a beautiful smile, followed by asking for my number. At that moment I just thought he was being nice like how people I met while I was on my oversea exchange during my University times, so I just chat. I gave my number thinking it is just a friendly gesture to stay in contact like a friend, maybe we just hit off.
So he texted me, always start it off with "hey babe". Which I took it as his lingo and sometimes with the sending kiss emoji. And then, he asked if I was free on the weekend to visit him cause he misses me. At this point, call me dumb or what, I just took the words as normal bcoz I have friends arnd me who text me like that.
So that was the first time I'm meeting him, in the afternoon... and it was meeting at the place he was staying. That was when I felt uncomfortable and asked my close friend what should I do. And she told me to go with a friend or to just change the location of the meeting. I tried asking for a change of the location and it failed with him telling me he was gng to cook and he always sleep in late, so it will be convenient if we just meet at his place and he assured me that he won't pull any funny stuns to hurt or harm me cause I'm special to him. I tried to get that friend since the location changing failed but she was not available to go...
Leaving the part where my friend ain't free to go with me, I went ahead to meet him at his place, with his assurance and that since it is in the day. But I make sure I am aware of my escape route and stuff.
In the end, he didn't cook, saying he overslept and just bought fast food my fight or flight awareness just hit the a notch higher. So while we ate, chat and watch a movie which I find it pretty alright. But after we stopped eating, chatted for a while, him saying I have beautiful eyes and smile he suddenly came close on me. Of course, I rejected like WTF are you trying to do??? And he said he is attracted to me and want me, he just wants a kiss. I was reluctant at first cause it really spooks me out, being Asian (mayb just me) and having no relationship experience...
But I gave in, cause he is attractive and I feel that there may be something more, like a serious relationship. Just so you guys know, everything happened in his room.
So there was the kissing and hugging but his hand started to try and go a little of everywhere, groping me, trying to go under my clothing, removing my clothing and touching me in places that are very private, which I resisted every single time! He even placed my hand on his private part which I felt it being wet and I withdrew my hand immediately!!! And left, ran for my life!!!
After that he tried contacting me and telling me not to leave him hanging or bail on him, he is interested in me and wants to be with me, want me to be his woman. Saying that he wants me and I want him kind of stuff. I did not reply to him till I was much calmer and sent him a super long text telling him how I felt him being disrespectful of me, and trying to land sex on me when both of us don't even know each other on an emotional level. I'm not that kind!
This led him to tell me about his previous relationship which made me mad cause he is like judging me and putting me in the calibre/shadow of that girl (same race as I am) without knowing me and all the more made me mad is he making the statement "I knw I'm not the first guy why so defensive?" and doubting my words when I said he is. He tried calling, I refused to answer, just sent him a text of "I'm not answering. I'm mad at you." He apologises, he did not mean it in any way to hurt me and that this let us understand each other better and can build on a healthy and strong relationship and asked for forgiveness.
I forgive him and met him weeks later, at night. where we met outside, talked about things, emotional things... With the talk, I actually thought he could really be the one, maybe his way of approach is not right but he could be the one. So we went somewhere, we kissed and cuddled, and his hand started to get somewhere again... this time straight into my pants for my V. I resisted at first... when he whispered its gng to be alright, I melted into his arm and let him have it. I have to be honest about this, it actually turns me on. During dinner, he talked about his past relationship which running through my mind is... is he even serious? is he trying to make me understand his past or just boasting he slept with his exs?
After dinner, before he sent me home, we did it again. But this time, he said this, "let's go back to my place, no penetration. Let me eat you up and make you feel good" while holding my hand against his D***. Which I rejected, with the reason I have to get up early for work the next day and he sent me to the bus stop asking if we could spend time together on the weekend, the whole day, at his place...
I knw I'm dumb in this case for letting him did what he did. I did tell him about what I am feeling, how I am feeling how I want the approach of me with him to be. But somehow he is only understanding part of it? When we had our conversation, he doesn't seem to catch half the things I said or put it to heart. So currently I'm just not replying to him. I've talked with my friends abt it and they all said to block him, his weird...
Is this guy even serious about getting into a serious relationship with me??? OR is he just trying to get in my pants for the V???
So far I've only had a crush on a guy for 3 years which I did not confess and we just let things be, as friend. No past dating relationship for me but surely a lot of friends in a relationship/married arnd me, seeing how theirs play out whether good or bad, I guess I do gain something out of it.
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