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    Hey, i need help. 3 years ago, i met a girl when i went to college. She was, to be honest, my ideal girlfriend. I mean, we were both very similar. We both had very geeky interests. We were both pretty smart. We were actually incredibly similar in most respects. But the biggest thing for me, she was a very outspoken conservative. I never thought i would run into another conservative in college ( i mean, i've heard plenty of horror stories of how left leaning colleges can be).


    To be honest, she wasn't the model type. Actually, she was pretty nerdy. But i thought she was pretty damn cute.


    Anyway, i wanted to ask her out. But i just never could work up the courage to do it. And, before i knew it she transferred to another school. I lost my shot, because i was too scared to push it. Yeah, i know, i can see the comments right now as i'm writing this. "Stupid beta ". I know, i probably come off as a major beta right now but i want to change that. She was smart, she was cute, she’s one of the few people I’ve met who actually really liked my sense of humor, she always wanted to talk to me and even approached me on her own, she seemed interested in me and I just let her get away. Every day for almost a year, she talked to me.


    But i was just too shy to do anything. Plus, i always felt she might have been "too much" for me. She wasn't too much of a dominant personality, in person at least. Online was a totally different story. She'd get into arguments with liberals all the time, and after awhile would generally insult them. Like "You do realize universal healthcare will completely bankrupt our economy, right? And totally goes against what the founding father's fought for, right? Oh wait, you're retarted. Don't worry, you're still special!". and she posted something a little intense about our generation. I was kinda worried i'd be biting off more then i could chew.


    Anyway, I mean, from what i could tell, she'd never had a boyfriend. Like, ever. Plus, She actually might have been interested in me.


    I mean, we talked every day. Not just a simple hello, but a full conversation. ABout politics or really anything. I don't remember specifically, but we'd talk to just each other for sometimes up to an hour. Not to mention, She made it a point to talk to me. She approached me, i didn't approach her. Whenever she'd come to campus, she'd always sit at the same table i did. I even conducted an experiment, i sat on the opposite side of the lobby andshe STILL sat by me. She even laughed like crazy at my, rather lame, jokes. Loud, i even got her to snort with laughter.


    It's been 2 years since we talked. I've considered messaging her, telling her how i felt. Or just saying hi, but i don't want to appear too desperate either. How should i approach this? I mean, she still doesn't have a boyfriend from what i can tell. Is it too late? Would i have had a shot anyway?

  • #2
    start off slow and platonic after a two year no contact period. don't assume she doesn't have a boyfriend just because she hasn't hyped about it. some guys prefer a low profile relationship so she may be honoring his style. if she was interested in you she also wouldn't advertise another man. build up to flirting and showing a romantic interest in her. if she is taken and honest she will spill her non availability beyond friendship. at this point discuss your shyness two years ago even though interested in her and how you were unable to forget her. ask her if open to dating you after your explanation.

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    • #3
      It's not too late to approach her. As a matter of fact, she'll be happy to hear from you again. Also, I know she still likes you just as much as she did 2 years ago. So, summon courage and talk to her again.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Richard View Post
        It's not too late to approach her. As a matter of fact, she'll be happy to hear from you again. Also, I know she still likes you just as much as she did 2 years ago. So, summon courage and talk to her again.
        You think she liked me? I hope she does, that i'm not reading to much into it. Anyway, what should i ay?

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        • #5
          I'll suggest you message her again and just say hi. When she responds and you two talk talking again, you can then go ahead to tell her how you feel about her. I'm sure she has been expecting you to tell her how you feel about her but you never did, so she will be glad to hear that from you. It's never too late to approach her again as long as she still doesn't have a boyfriend.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by BigSteve
            You think she liked me? I hope she does, that i'm not reading to much into it. Anyway, what should i ay?
            If she liked you so much then to have approached you, then still likes you even until now. Simply contact her again and ask about her well-being, things will naturally escalate from there. When you are in good talking terms with her, you can then let her know your feelings. However, don't be shy this time to tell her you like her.

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            • #7

              Originally posted by Kate View Post
              I'll suggest you message her again and just say hi. When she responds and you two talk talking again, you can then go ahead to tell her how you feel about her. I'm sure she has been expecting you to tell her how you feel about her but you never did, so she will be glad to hear that from you. It's never too late to approach her again as long as she still doesn't have a boyfriend.
              As far as i know, she doesn't. Anyway, what exactly should i say? I don't really wanna sound too desperate.

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