What should I do?

[Eve]

I have reached the age at which I wish to marry, I want children. If I'm honest with the men from the beginning and tell them what I want (family), do you think I'm wrong? I do not want to waste time with someone who does not want the same thing. Last year I was dating a guy. I liked it a lot, I think he liked me too. Besides some kissing, nothing happened between us. There followed a time when both of us were very busy and interrupted everything. Now I really want to meet but he says he does not have time. I want to have a relationship with him, I do not know what to do. What do you think of the girls taking the first step? How should I behave? What should I say to him?

[Kate]

If I'm honest with the men from the beginning and tell them what I want (family), do you think I'm wrong?

It's best to define a relationship for the beginning, so you can be sure you two are on the same page. You won't be wrong if you are honest with men from the start. Being honest will help to save your time and also help you attract the right men into your life.

As for the guy you are dating; if he isn't giving you attention, then you need to dump him and find someone else.

[Jerome]

Getting a guy's attention is really not a very difficult task. It only requires a little bit of practice and an idea of what needs to be done. Here are some of the things that you can do to get a guy's attention.

Work on the way you look
Men are visual creatures by nature and to get a guys attention you have to first work on the way you look. Wearing stylish clothes that flatter your figure and choosing colors that suit your complexion and the setting makes a huge difference. Complement that with a nice fragrance and you are set to attract a guy.

Have a commanding presence
It's all in the way you conduct yourself. Your attitude plays a huge role in getting a guy's attention. Being sure and confident about yourself gives the right impression and helps in getting a guy's attention as you don't come across as attention deprived.

Use your body language
You can also use your body language to get a guys attention. Sit facing him and keep your body language open. Sit with your legs pointing towards him and have your arms uncrossed. This way he will know that you are open to talking to him.

Make eye contact
Eye contact is another way to get a guy attracted to you. Look in his direction till he catches your eye. Then look down and give a shy smile. You should then look at him, smile, and then continue to do what you were doing. He will get intrigued and will want to give you his attention.

Make the first move
Another very unlikely thing to do is to make the first move. This can be done directly by walking over to him and beginning a conversation or can be done through a non verbal motion such as motioning him to come over. This gets his attention as you come across as a woman who doesn't hesitate to make the first move. It's a refreshing change.

Have a sense of humor
Have a sense of humor if you want to attract a guy. Laughing out loud is definitely going to get him to take notice of you. Being witty is also a great way to make a man see your bright side. When he sees your fun loving nature he will give you his attention.

Look popular
It's the popular girls that draw attention easily as it is perceived that these girls will be fun to hang out with. So, while you should be seen alone so that he can make a move, hang out with your group and get his attention.

[bunnyhabit]

this man lost interest in you because you only allowed kissing. send him a revealing photo of you with a note "hoping we can go beyond the kissing only relationship of our history, in the near future. insist on double protection birth control and condoms till firmly in a monogamous relationship. if he does not jump on this offer give up on him and move on. keep in mind no man will last in a kissing role only. not good to overly set all your goals early in a relationship but to release over time. pushing marriage and children to someone new will scare him away.

[most-mixed-up]

When we're introverted types, it seems a lot easier to go back to something we already know...you already knew this guy, but, I don't think he's that interested. Its' hard but, you're young and pretty, what's not to love? Just get some experience with dating, and gain some confidence about what you expect from a guy, and how to say it. Yep, it means some will fall away, because they aren't up to it, but, you only need one to stand up and be the one.

[delta2016]

I understand how frustrating can be to just sit and wait for the perfect man to just arrive and wanting the same things we want... but I honestly think a girl should not take the first step.... even if it's no longer a "rule" that a man must move first (unfortunately, cos I do believe it was better that way), I "feel" that if a man is not convinced enough, or if he is somehow "guided" into a relationship.... it's so not gonna last, or he'll end up getting bored. A man needs to be 200% into you, he needs to chase you, go after you, court you, tell you he doesn't want anyone else like he wants you. Believe me, don't "push" or "force" something if it doesn't come naturally. YOu'll just end up hurt.