Wife and half-brother

[Clueless1121]

This one is complicated. My wife and I have been married for about a year but dated a year prior to that and our friendship goes back about 8 years. I found out the other day that her half-brother (whos schizophrenic and shared the same mom) has been talking to a therapist about reoccurring fantasies that he has been having about violently raping my wife. He is unmedicated and she is genuinely scared. She then dropped a bomb on me and told me that about 3 years ago they were both drunk and ended up having sex. She told me that it only happened once and afterwards that they agreed to never speak of it again. I have so many mixed emotions over this. I know it's still fresh but I don't know how to feel about her now. I still love her, but I cant shake the thought that she had sex with her half-brother. Any tips or advice on this would he helpful. It has me quite depressed.

[Olivia]

I know exactly how it feels to hear this about your wife. However, you must realize it happened before she met you and started dating. So, I'll advice you get it off your mind and continue to love her.

[Brett]

This happened in the past, so don't let her past affect your relationship with her. You should be more concerned about what she has done while married to her, and not what she did before you got married to her.