Am I insecure?

[Jexray]

Hello, I'm new to this forum so forgive me if this has been touched on before. So, my fiance is the type of person who likes to keep her ex boyfriends in her life where they talk on social media, text occasionally and get together every so often. These exes still have feelings for her so it makes me uncomfortable. I've communicated that with her and she has done a better job to keep them at a distance. She has plenty of guy friends, and I have no problem with this. They'll do lunch, dinner and talk on the phone occasionally and it does not bug me. I too have female friends from college or from when I was younger that I communicate with. My fiance though, is very jealous. She doesnt like me communicating with them, has made it very clear that I should have no communication with exes and I shouldn't have any friends that have/had feelings for me. So, out of respect for her, I've stopped all communication with them except for 2 females who are like sisters to me and have no emotional/sexual history with me.
She knows about it and still doesnt like it, but allows it.

She keeps telling me though that she has some friends that have feelings for her. She says they used to hit on her and have really let out their feelings for her. She says that she doesnt respond but that she feels so bad not responding but is very tempted to. She keeps going back and forth in her mind if she should respond or not. I dont like it because they text her every week, and i dont agree with befriending or communicating consistently with people who have those feelings for you when you're engaged/married. Am I just being insecure about the fact that shes really struggling with this?

[bunnyhabit]

No you have the right attitude. While it is acceptable for her to have male friends, she should limit to platonic friends. Ex's and hitters should be off limits for both of you. She should clap back to hitters to remain platonic in their convos as she is engaged to someone. If they persist in flirting she must drop them as friends out of respect for her relationship status.

[Jexray]

No you have the right attitude. While it is acceptable for her to have male friends, she should limit to platonic friends. Ex's and hitters should be off limits for both of you. She should clap back to hitters to remain platonic in their convos as she is engaged to someone. If they persist in flirting she must drop them as friends out of respect for her relationship status.

Her response is that I do not trust her...
I dont want to her to feel like i control her relationship with her friends or anything like that, so I dont want to be unreasonable.
Last month, an old friend contacted her on Instagram saying, that he wants to " see her fuck a girl and see if she fucks her as good as he would" and my girl turned the conversation into one about relationships. Then he told her that he would like to make memories with her and she responded that "she'll keep it in mind in case it's ever the right time." She was laying on me when she messaged this, and thought I was sleeping, but I saw the whole thing. This made me upset coupled with the fact she asks me a least every other week she wants to have a conversation if I cheating is enough to break to up with someone. We spoke about that and she apologized, saying that " that's just how they talk and that honestly, hes just something nice to look at."
So yes, it makes me feel a little weird, and I wouldn't feel comfortable with her hanging out with someone who has stated that he is in love with her more than once even if he doesn't proclaim it every time they're together.

[Lily]

You aren't insecure but you are simply doing the right thing by trying to keep other guys off her. If she struggles with her emotions regarding these male friends, then she shouldn't be communicating with them. So, you need to make this clear to her.

[Anthony]

If she doesn't like you communicating with your female friends and have stopped you from doing that, then she needs to do the same. She can't just stop you from communicating with all your female friends and still continues to communicate with her male friends / ex. Make it clear to her that she needs to choose between you and the other guys.

[bunnyhabit]

Your finacee is a player and will never be faithful To respond positively to guys proposition to fuck her by saying she will keep it in mind should be a huge red flag that you are engaged to an active cheater. The possibility of she is being monogamous is extremely thin to me.

[Jexray]

I'm starting to feel that way. Though I feel like she hasn't cheated on me as of now. I feel like I may be setting myself up for failure. It's tough too because her 6 year old daughter looks at me like I'm her father and I look at her as if shes my daughter. I have a lot to think about, I see.

[bunnyhabit]

What makes you believe this (I feel like she hasn't cheated on me as of now). Perhaps a hopeful desire to remain close to your assumed daughter desires? You are truly an idealist to hold on to this possibility.

[Jexray]

Well. We've broken up now. I was an idealist, I realize that now. Her and I are done now.

[bunnyhabit]

do you get opportunities to play with her daughter or lost her also?

[Jexray]

Lost both of them.