Can A Guy Actually Fall For A Woman That Fast?

[Stella]

I hope things are going great for you.

I met this guy and I ended up spending three whole days with him after which he said he loved me.

After the three days I had to move to a different city and it has been three weeks since we met in person.

We talk regularly on the phone and he says he can't sleep at night without hearing the sound of my voice.

He seems pretty nice so far.

My question is this - can a guy actually fall for a woman that fast?

I've always heard that men take time to think relationship.

I might go back to his place and the guy says that if I do he will be with me and only me and no other girl.

It's just so fast and I'm so confused.

Also, should I wait for sex, and if I do then how long? We've already been a bit physical.

Lastly, I'm a virgin. I'm twenty-three, the guys twenty-five.

He says that men find virgins more appealing than women who sleep around and that men respect virgins. Is this true?

Any insight on these matters would be greatly appreciated.

[Richard]

You asked some really great questions.

First of all... can a man fall in love quickly?

Sometimes people know what they want and have solid intuition about and good intentions for the people they meet.

However a man who has trouble with finding a woman to like him could respond in the same way... could he not?

In that scenario... he would be acting more on “desperation” that you “like” him... than anything about "love"... doing “whatever you want” in an “attempt” to keep you.

For most women... that is a “major psychological factor” in “feeling” like they are "settling"... and “making do!”

And let us not forget that some men out there are “unscrupulous” and will lie by saying what they “think” you want to hear in order to bed you.

Considering you are a virgin... you may very well spark the fantasies of men like this in exactly the way you would most want to avoid.

Here is the thing though... no matter what... 3 days is not enough to really know what kind of man this is... besides “real love” comes from getting to know someone over a period of time.

You can indeed have a very good feeling about someone within a short amount of time and even that really does come from having meet up with them lots and therefore knowing from experience exactly what you want from a man... and the irony is that same level of experience will ALSO tell you that both men and women should take time to think about getting into a relationship.

Too many people let themselves fall in love too quickly with someone who is not a good match for them... my question to you is...

"What is it about him that makes you think about him?"

You never said that you have “feelings” for him which I found conspicuously absent given the rest of the subject matter of your message... is the fact that he said he loves you ALONE what caught your interest?

Your virginity should be special to you... when you decide to have sex for the first time it should be based on want you want... not what a man thinks or said... and yes some men will “key in on your virginity”... considering it a challenge or even a particularly satisfying sexual conquest to go after... so with that said... do not take your virginity lightly in the least.

You are 23 years old... and if you are more comfortable waiting for the right man who has through time and action proven to you that he is committed to you... that is a solid plan.

A respectable man will appreciate that and never pressure you... he will understand that you want to wait for the right man and time... and by the way have you considered finding someone closer to where you live?

As I often write in my articles for both men and women it is so much easier to get to know someone more naturally that way without letting so much water slip under the bridge... you will meet the right man as long as you do not settle for the first man who says he loves you or wants to marry you.

Have fun out there courting and meeting some great men who will honour and respect you as you deserve!

Keep in contact Stella and let me know how you get on.

[Kate]

How can you make a guy fall in love? Is there anything you can do to make a man fall instantly in love? Is it possible to make him fall in love any faster? It can be frustrating at times how men take much longer than women to fall in love. Women typically develop string feelings for a guy much faster than he can develop them in return. Often this can cause a rift between two people. But is it possible to make a guy fall in love any faster, and should you try?

It's frustrating but it's true - men take much longer to form an emotional bond. This is because they guard their emotions much more closely than women and they are by their very nature less trusting. Women often become concerned that their partner doesn't return their feelings of affection. When this happens, however, it is essential that you do not try to make a guy fall in love with you. By putting pressure on him you will only push him away. Men need time and patience. If you want him to fall in love with you then it is better to let him do it without any intervention on your part.

Women's impatience with their partners' feelings is a major cause of break-ups. It's ironic but a simple need to be loved in return is the very thing that stops men from developing those feelings.

It's also ironic that by not trying to intervene and allowing your man the time and space he needs to develop feelings of love on his own you can actually make him fall in love even faster. When a man is not pressured and the relationship is allowed to move at a slower pace and one that is more comfortable for him, he will actually feel more appreciated, more respected and more able to admit to his feelings.

If you really want to make a guy fall in love you only need to have a little patience and keep ding whatever you have been doing to keep him happy so far.

[Stella]

I sincerely appreciate all the advice I got here.