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I'm 24 years old and I've been with my boyfriend (Joe) for almost 2 years (a year and 11 months to be precise). I love him. He's wonderful, treats me well and is very supportive. We are compatible so I think we could even marry in the future. I'm excited because we're planning to move in together in a few months.
Few months ago I took an additional training course related to my job. My colleagues and I were divided into teams led by a mentor. One day my team and I decided to have some fun after work and we played board games with our mentor (Bill). By coincidence during the game I happened to be Bill's co-player. We all played and chatted, and had a good time. We became closer to each other. I chatted with Bill a few times after that. The next weeks I found myself thinking obsessively about Bill in particular. Needless to say, I felt terrible about it. There was a time when Joe and I went for a walk downtown and we accidentally (or not) bumped into Bill. I felt strange. My heart raced when I saw him. After that I told Joe that Bill is our mentor at work but I didn't mention anything about the way I was feeling. I didn't want to hurt him so I decided not to indulge in this attraction anymore and to let it go. (It turned out to be a pretty hard thing to do.)
Last week at work we had our final meeting. I saw Bill but this time I felt nothing. I still think he is an interesting person but I don't feel such intense attraction as before. (I am proud of myself!) It seemed to me that he was flirting. I observed his body language. He sat next to me (there were other free seats), he praised me, he repeated my name way too many times, he laughed at my jokes, he said that he is single, he deliberately gave some hints that he is checking my social media profile/photos (he found some mutual likes and initiated a conversation about them). He made it clear that he would be happy if someone invites him for a drink outside of work.I want him to be my friend but I wonder whether all these are just friendly gestures or does he want something more that I'm not willing to give him.
Personally, I think I'm just overreacting because I don't have much experience with male friends other than my boyfriend. In fact, I don't have close male friends except Joe. In contrast, I have many close and not so close female friends. My (female) friends, Joe and I are going to a local club tonight. Do you think it is a good idea to invite Bill to come with us?
I'm 24 years old and I've been with my boyfriend (Joe) for almost 2 years (a year and 11 months to be precise). I love him. He's wonderful, treats me well and is very supportive. We are compatible so I think we could even marry in the future. I'm excited because we're planning to move in together in a few months.
Few months ago I took an additional training course related to my job. My colleagues and I were divided into teams led by a mentor. One day my team and I decided to have some fun after work and we played board games with our mentor (Bill). By coincidence during the game I happened to be Bill's co-player. We all played and chatted, and had a good time. We became closer to each other. I chatted with Bill a few times after that. The next weeks I found myself thinking obsessively about Bill in particular. Needless to say, I felt terrible about it. There was a time when Joe and I went for a walk downtown and we accidentally (or not) bumped into Bill. I felt strange. My heart raced when I saw him. After that I told Joe that Bill is our mentor at work but I didn't mention anything about the way I was feeling. I didn't want to hurt him so I decided not to indulge in this attraction anymore and to let it go. (It turned out to be a pretty hard thing to do.)
Last week at work we had our final meeting. I saw Bill but this time I felt nothing. I still think he is an interesting person but I don't feel such intense attraction as before. (I am proud of myself!) It seemed to me that he was flirting. I observed his body language. He sat next to me (there were other free seats), he praised me, he repeated my name way too many times, he laughed at my jokes, he said that he is single, he deliberately gave some hints that he is checking my social media profile/photos (he found some mutual likes and initiated a conversation about them). He made it clear that he would be happy if someone invites him for a drink outside of work.I want him to be my friend but I wonder whether all these are just friendly gestures or does he want something more that I'm not willing to give him.
Personally, I think I'm just overreacting because I don't have much experience with male friends other than my boyfriend. In fact, I don't have close male friends except Joe. In contrast, I have many close and not so close female friends. My (female) friends, Joe and I are going to a local club tonight. Do you think it is a good idea to invite Bill to come with us?
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