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I'm looking for some outside perspective because I'm feeling really confused.
My girlfriend and I were doing really well. We talked every day, had regular video calls, supported each other, and often talked about our future together. As far as I knew, there were no major arguments or serious problems between us.
Then I noticed that she started replying to my messages less often. I didn't make a big deal out of it because I know everyone gets busy or goes through difficult times.
A little later, she told me that she was exhausted and wanted to put our relationship on pause. I asked if we could talk on the phone, but she said that if we did, she wouldn't be able to stop herself from crying. She never explained what the actual problem was. She didn't say she had stopped loving me, and she didn't say she wanted to break up.
It's been about two weeks now, and we haven't spoken at all. I decided to respect her request and give her the space she asked for instead of constantly messaging her.
I'm trying not to jump to conclusions, but it's hard. Just before all of this, we were making plans for our future together, and then everything changed so suddenly.
Has anyone been through something similar? Can someone genuinely ask for a pause because they're struggling with personal issues and later come back to the relationship? Or does this usually mean they're slowly trying to end things?
I'd really appreciate any honest advice or experiences. Thank you.
My girlfriend and I were doing really well. We talked every day, had regular video calls, supported each other, and often talked about our future together. As far as I knew, there were no major arguments or serious problems between us.
Then I noticed that she started replying to my messages less often. I didn't make a big deal out of it because I know everyone gets busy or goes through difficult times.
A little later, she told me that she was exhausted and wanted to put our relationship on pause. I asked if we could talk on the phone, but she said that if we did, she wouldn't be able to stop herself from crying. She never explained what the actual problem was. She didn't say she had stopped loving me, and she didn't say she wanted to break up.
It's been about two weeks now, and we haven't spoken at all. I decided to respect her request and give her the space she asked for instead of constantly messaging her.
I'm trying not to jump to conclusions, but it's hard. Just before all of this, we were making plans for our future together, and then everything changed so suddenly.
Has anyone been through something similar? Can someone genuinely ask for a pause because they're struggling with personal issues and later come back to the relationship? Or does this usually mean they're slowly trying to end things?
I'd really appreciate any honest advice or experiences. Thank you.