What does my boyfriend’s text mean?? Is it over or can the relationship be saved?

[Confused579]

My boyfriend and I had an argument, and i left. We’d both been drinking that night (Wednesday night). I will admit I haven’t been the person I usually am in an extreme way (depression). I was highly motivated, worked and was extremely independent and went from that to doing nothing but “exiting”. We haven’t spoken and finally I texted him and asked him if it was over or if it was just a fight on Saturday. He responded today. His text: “If it was a few days past I’d have said it’s just a fight but the longer it goes the more I see that I wasn’t happy and one of us would have to make a real change for it to work. I could never ask you to do that. As hard as it is to see and say I can’t see us getting back right. Also I can’t come back to the city yet. Being out here is the only thing that can relax me after this.” Does this mean he’s willing to try if I become the person I was before or is he completely done?

[David]

His text doesn't imply it's over, but he doesn't want to appear that he's desperate to get back with you. So, I think there is a chance to save your relationship.

[Confused579]

Thanks a million David! I feel like in my confusion and not wanting to jump to unnecessary conclusions i need insight. Thanks so much for responding!

[Caroline]

His text isn't positive. So, don't be the one pleading and begging him to come back. Sit back and let him come back if he wants to, otherwise move on with grace.

[Confused579]

You’re right Caroline! Thanks for your response! It’s so difficult to speak to family and friends about this because we are all biased when it comes to our loved ones! And I shall proceed with grace whatever the outcome

[bunnyhabit]

He is telling you that your personality changes are unacceptable to him. The only chance of maintaining the relationship is to return to your pre depression persona.