Old Friend

[Clueless]

So I have reconnected with an old friend from high school - online. We were really close, but never dated. (I liked her, was really shy - and we had a fight after a few adult beverages, and our friendship slowed to a stop). She contacted me (she has a few times over the years, but they usually were an isolated conversation or two). This time, for whatever reason, it has stuck.

We live in different parts of the country, and she is involved with someone. We talk all the time. One thing is, even back in the day - she was always a big flirt. Today, perhaps her skills at flirting are better - but still a flirt. Many of our conversations are random - but flirting can work its way into them. We've never had "phone sex" (we talk occasionally on the phone too) or anything like that online. But ever so often she will tell me about her visits to nude beaches, things like how she just let her dog outside late at night - and she was only wearing a towel, etc. Yesterday I asked her about workout clothes - and if she felt the need to match - and she mentioned that yes, even down to the bottom level.. (Referring to her underwear). When i asked about proof - she said she is currently not wearing such an item.

We were talking about attending an event where we went to school - (neither of us live in that area anymore), and she isnt able to attend. I told her i understood - an its a far trip for a one day event - and it sounds like the event she would be going to would be more fun anyway. (The event she was going to was meeting her best friend and introducing the friend to her boyfriend for the first time. They have been dating for a few years, but he is currently living in another state). Her response to me was - yes, but you won't be there.

She tells me she is happy in her relationship with her Boyfriend, but why is she always reaching out to me? She is a major league flirt... But at the same time, many of our conversations are more normal. She confides in me about things (not about her relationship with her boyfriend, but issues with her kids, herself etc.) Conversations (mostly text) can start 6 am (for instance today) and have gone on for hours at night.

I am confused by these conversations. We have history, but at the same time - if we do actually see each other in person, it would be rare and infrequent.

Thoughts?

[Elizabeth]

She simply sees you as an old friend she can rely on. So, don't ruin your friendship with her by thinking otherwise. I really thing you are over analyzing things and your mind is lying to you.

[Clinton]

Since you're confused about her feelings for you, I will advice you tell her you are attracted to her and watch how she reacts. She just might be open to dating you, and if you don't express your feelings, that might never happen.

[Clueless]

As some additional points of reference, we text almost every day - with texts starting as early as 6 am and spend many evenings texting all night with the occasional phone call worked in. The only time we don’t text is when she travels to see her boyfriend who is currently in a neighboring state. This is every other weekend. I would say we spend no less then 1 hour of every day in active conversations. She also initiates 3/4 or more of our conversations

also she is very much aware of my prior feelings as the reason we stopped speaking was from a fight due to a misunderstanding. We have talked it out in our recent conversations- but she has told me that back the I was closer to her then anywone she dated- and has vacillated between telling me then she wasn’t sure if she thought of me as just a friend, and telling me I should have been more agressive.

perhaps I am more reserved, but I don’t talk with my male friends multiple times a day and never discuss the underwear I am or am not wearing.

[Sammy]

Reading a woman's mind is like reading foreign inscriptions you've never seen before. No matter how much you look in different angles, there will always be a point where you think you're going insane just by figuring her out --- so stop figuring her out. You'll go nowhere. The best way to do that is by knowing how to read her body language --- women love to send mixed signals and get all playful with you that's you have to game. She's probably already attracted and would want to sleep with you! So when you're out on a weekend night enjoying yourself with a couple of beers and a few hot babes nearby, start detecting if she sending you signals she wants to have sex with you --- find out if she wants you in bed tonight!

• She keeps flirting. She sends you signs she's into you namely --- maintaining eye contact, laughing way out loud, making use of a lot hand gestures, staring at your lips while you speak --- there are about a million flirting signals she may be sending you right now and you better learn how to read them --- and fast!
• She talks naughty. She keeps teasing you and would even crack a joke on you --- she loves seeing you goof around with her and that's more than just having a great time. When women start to get comfortable with you they are already starting to get sexually attracted as well.
• She reaches over and touches you. Touching is already considered an intimate thing that's why when she keeps doing it briefly but constantly, you should take it as green light --- she wants you to make the moves on her as well! Women who wouldn't dare touch you means you still need to gain their trust first of all.
• She keeps licking and biting her lips. The lips are considered are very sensitive and very sexy part of the human body --- that's why some girls would use as a sensual tool to lure you over to their charms. So when she keeps licking and biting her lips while staring at yours, she's definitely all fired up for some real action tonight.
• She leans over. Leaning over to show you a bit of cleavage is extremely sexually charged --- even if she isn't really wearing something revealing, leaning over is a very obvious sign that she's sexually attracted to you --- she's closing the distance and she wants to show others that you're a couple and that you're definitely having a wild night tonight.