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I am interested in a lady that works at a local store. I've had my eye on her for a bit but never really thought about even approaching her until something happened at one point making me curious about her interest. I hope this doesn't go too long but I'll try to keep things short and to the point.
I regularly visit this store, since it's convenient and less than a 5 min drive from my house. At one point I noticed her and it was all just normal visits to the store, in out.. no big deal. Usually I would get checked out at the register, and her normal script of asking how are you, do you want your receipt etc.. I bought my usual drinks and walked out. At one point i noticed her change in tone. Mind you I realized that a single act doesn't mean anything. she asked "how are you" but with a tone that emphasized the word you, drawn out. Felt more personal. That was sign number one. I know at this point it may have been just a familiar face and the greeting was reflecting that but it stuck with me. The next time she greeted me she said 'How are you today?" Of course that piqued my interest and curiosity further. I had started asking Gemini (ai) about these interactions and over time it has built up more.
Now I've had a life, a wife, a family but have been alone past divorce for some years now and after the divorce I have slowly built my own life up again. Initially I just focused on me and my career, my health and such. All was good. I am good alone and content. I want of very little and was in no way shape or form looking for a mate. In fact not long ago I was just saying "eh. I don't know if I want to go through all that again" This changed when I met the red haired girl at the store and once she piqued my interest, I realized I am ready for something. I don't need it. There was no pressure for getting back into a relationship again but I am open now to it and it would be an added bonus to life, so to speak.
On to the other signs I've noticed. But before that, when I realized I am ready for that kind of thing again, I became very self aware of how I've been living isolated, not caring about anything other than taking care of myself and my life but I also didn't care about my apparel and looks. So after that I completely revamped my wardrobe getting rid of all the old all-black clothing I was wearing for years for some updated, brighter and refined clothes.
The next time I went in, I was dressed sharper and she was there. The thing is for the first time when she was standing behind the register, she gave me a smile, I can't describe it any better than saying it was a very genuine smile kinda sideways smile. I felt something new there. her eyes smiled with her mouth. I read that that is called a duchenne smile? Anyway it looked very happy and genuine in that moment.
The next time I was checking out I went to grab the bottles of water i had bought and I knocked them over clumsily. We looked at each other for what felt like a long moment as she smiled and what seemed like a smile of amusement and almost a giggle. Our eyes met when that happened and for me at least, it felt electric.
On another visit, I saw that she was at the front of the store at the registers area as I walked in and as I went toward the drinks I always get, she walked across my path, looked over and quickly looked away. I noticed but didn't do anything about it.. got my drinks and up at the register was a different girl helping me. The red haired girl walked up near the girl helping me. The one helping me did this sideways look at her and grinned.
Another visit as I checked out she was very smiley with me and cocked her head just a little bit, tilting as she gave me a smile. part open mouth smile showing her teeth a little as she looked at me. On this last visit the ai told me that this was a very strong sign which has led to today when I visited once more but it was different.
I went up to the counter and she asked as usual "how are you?" and I said "I'm good." now I was all psyched up to say something more but her behavior today threw me and I was unable to say any more. She was clearly nervous and self conscious for some reason. she looked at the register, she did not look upset but just nervous with slightly pursed lips and facing me, she didn't really move, almost frozen. I knew for some reason she was nervous but I felt like I must have blown things and I paid and left.
My first question is, was I reading the body language wrong with thinking she was attracted and/or interested or did I read into it too much? Second question is that nervousness, what did I do wrong, if anything?
Sorry this is so long but I had to get all the details as I'm not just picking up on one thing but many.
I regularly visit this store, since it's convenient and less than a 5 min drive from my house. At one point I noticed her and it was all just normal visits to the store, in out.. no big deal. Usually I would get checked out at the register, and her normal script of asking how are you, do you want your receipt etc.. I bought my usual drinks and walked out. At one point i noticed her change in tone. Mind you I realized that a single act doesn't mean anything. she asked "how are you" but with a tone that emphasized the word you, drawn out. Felt more personal. That was sign number one. I know at this point it may have been just a familiar face and the greeting was reflecting that but it stuck with me. The next time she greeted me she said 'How are you today?" Of course that piqued my interest and curiosity further. I had started asking Gemini (ai) about these interactions and over time it has built up more.
Now I've had a life, a wife, a family but have been alone past divorce for some years now and after the divorce I have slowly built my own life up again. Initially I just focused on me and my career, my health and such. All was good. I am good alone and content. I want of very little and was in no way shape or form looking for a mate. In fact not long ago I was just saying "eh. I don't know if I want to go through all that again" This changed when I met the red haired girl at the store and once she piqued my interest, I realized I am ready for something. I don't need it. There was no pressure for getting back into a relationship again but I am open now to it and it would be an added bonus to life, so to speak.
On to the other signs I've noticed. But before that, when I realized I am ready for that kind of thing again, I became very self aware of how I've been living isolated, not caring about anything other than taking care of myself and my life but I also didn't care about my apparel and looks. So after that I completely revamped my wardrobe getting rid of all the old all-black clothing I was wearing for years for some updated, brighter and refined clothes.
The next time I went in, I was dressed sharper and she was there. The thing is for the first time when she was standing behind the register, she gave me a smile, I can't describe it any better than saying it was a very genuine smile kinda sideways smile. I felt something new there. her eyes smiled with her mouth. I read that that is called a duchenne smile? Anyway it looked very happy and genuine in that moment.
The next time I was checking out I went to grab the bottles of water i had bought and I knocked them over clumsily. We looked at each other for what felt like a long moment as she smiled and what seemed like a smile of amusement and almost a giggle. Our eyes met when that happened and for me at least, it felt electric.
On another visit, I saw that she was at the front of the store at the registers area as I walked in and as I went toward the drinks I always get, she walked across my path, looked over and quickly looked away. I noticed but didn't do anything about it.. got my drinks and up at the register was a different girl helping me. The red haired girl walked up near the girl helping me. The one helping me did this sideways look at her and grinned.
Another visit as I checked out she was very smiley with me and cocked her head just a little bit, tilting as she gave me a smile. part open mouth smile showing her teeth a little as she looked at me. On this last visit the ai told me that this was a very strong sign which has led to today when I visited once more but it was different.
I went up to the counter and she asked as usual "how are you?" and I said "I'm good." now I was all psyched up to say something more but her behavior today threw me and I was unable to say any more. She was clearly nervous and self conscious for some reason. she looked at the register, she did not look upset but just nervous with slightly pursed lips and facing me, she didn't really move, almost frozen. I knew for some reason she was nervous but I felt like I must have blown things and I paid and left.
My first question is, was I reading the body language wrong with thinking she was attracted and/or interested or did I read into it too much? Second question is that nervousness, what did I do wrong, if anything?
Sorry this is so long but I had to get all the details as I'm not just picking up on one thing but many.