Need tips on how to make myself unvunerable!!

[Sari]

Hi everyone!
I'm working with colleagues, last Friday an old colleague hit my butt and i told him - NO IT'S BAD!!!
(he dont understand much English) then Saturday i saw he wants to do it again and again i said No it's bad.
After lunch, i went to the water dispenser, drink, put my glass on the sink and prepare to go back to the table when suddenly he slap my right face, hitting me between my cheek and part of my neck!
I was severely shock that i reacted by only pointing on his face and said NEVER DO IT AGAIN!

This affected me emotionally because i respect the person (before - now i hate im so bad) see him as like a dad/uncle who i thought will be the 1st to back us (girls) from other colleague (the workers have different backgrounds and beliefs) since he is also a Christian.

That night i talked to 2 higher ranking guys and one pretend he didnt hear then they even make a joke about it which is very hurtful but i didnt show i was hurt (probably my ego working at hyper speed).

Yesterday which is Monday, i got the chance to tell the secretary and she asked me if someone saw those things being done, she will talk to the witness and probably talk to the culprit.

One colleague said its your butt faulth, its nice! I answered her, its not my body's faulth - his a dirt that is why!!!

Guys i dont like these to happen again, i dont wear provocative clothes at work, we have a uniform, formal loose pants and collared shirt.

How can i be seen as tough and can't me mess with?

[TheDarkOne]

Report it and keep telling them no. Nobody has the right to touch you without your consent. In the UK it's classed as assault and as it was in a sexual nature (your butt) that's sexual assault.

[Nora]

I think you don't react angrily enough, hence he still has the gut to do it again. So, the next time he does it, you need to scream on top of your voice angrily and warn him disrespectfully never to try it again. Also, you might need to hit him if it warrants it. This will scare him and other colleagues from doing that.

[Malvin]

You need to report the issue to the management.

[Sari]

[QUOTE=TheDarkOne;n19216]Report it and keep telling them no. Nobody has the right to touch you without your consent. In the UK it's classed as assault and as it was in a sexual nature (your butt) that's sexual assault.[/QUOTE]

I'm in a different part of Europe.I'm now based in a different place. Already told the secretary about it and i heard she talked to him, but today he put a kitchen towel in the mouth of another colleague ( one girl message me this). Planning to make a formal letter to the secretary, so i will be logged properly as a complaint.

[Sari]

I think you don't react angrily enough, hence he still has the gut to do it again. So, the next time he does it, you need to scream on top of your voice angrily and warn him disrespectfully never to try it again. Also, you might need to hit him if it warrants it. This will scare him and other colleagues from doing that.

[USER="2623"]Nora[/USER] i think i was angry enough but his just really an old bastard!

[Sari]

[USER="2627"]Malvin[/USER]

Will be doing just that!
Although i informed the proper channels, it seems that i must do more than just complain verbally


@Nora
@TheDarkOne
[USER="2627"]Malvin[/USER] thank you guys!!!

[Myuniversewithin]

Hi Sari.. it is bit scary. When reading initial messages, thought he is liking you and out of control. If he is behaving in same way with other girls too (like putting kitchen towel in mouth etc).. better to escalate it and be far away from him.

He is out of control and don't know how such people behave.

Be careful.

Last message in this post was three months old. Hope issue is resolved now and u r safe.

[Sari]

@Myuniversewithin,
i sent a formal complaint to the secretary and i was tranfered to another location and was travelling/working at the same time (guess i am still bless)
Haven't seen the culprit since then
Thank you