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Dashed Expectations and "Paris Syndrome"
One day I was hiking with some friends and I learned about a strange thing that happens when some tourists visit Paris.
They have this idealized vision of Paris in their minds. Happy people walking down the street. Romance. Bicycles. Baguettes. Crepes. The whole deal.
But then when they get there, they are completely shocked.
Just like anywhere else, people in Paris can be rude, the streets can be dirty, and it has all the problems that any big city has.
People can be in so much shock from this that they get what is called “Paris Syndrome.”
They become depressed, discouraged, and just want to stay in their hotel room.
Well, I’ve seen the same thing happen with getting your ex back.
"Ex Back Syndrome"...?
People sometimes believe that all they need to do is do Passive No Contact for a month, reach out to their ex, and then the chemistry will automatically be there.
There will be love and romance and before you know it they’ll be back together.
Usually, the realities are more challenging than this and there is still a lot of work that has to happen before all the romance and love automatically flows back into the relationship.
I’m sorry if this is going to be a shock to you, but it’s going to take more than doing Passive No Contact and a “magic” text message or two to get you back together with your ex.
…I hope you don’t get “Ex Back Syndrome” from this sobering realization.
The truth is that getting back together doesn’t happen automatically just because you cut contact or sent the right text message.
Getting back together happens when you can have a connection that is so strong, that your ex will go out of their way to get back together with you.
And unless you actually put effort into making that connection happen, you’re in for a rough ride.
The strong connection that’s going to get your ex back into your life again isn’t going to happen because:
- You cut contact
- You sent the right text message
- You have the right body language
- You memorized the right script
- You made their rebound look bad
- You got them to text you back
- They liked your post of Facebook
- You made them jealous
Or anything else.
The strong connection that’s going to get your ex back into your life again is only going to happen when you…
…Learn the skills that will give you a strong connection with them.
These are what I call Advanced Relational Skills.
And these skills are at the heart of the Ex Back Course.
I want to be clear that these skills are not about memorizing scripts or using “hypnotic” copy-and-paste text messages to mesmerize your ex.
I think it’s pretty obvious that that kind of thing won’t work.
These skills are simply about learning personal development and interpersonal communication skills that will help you have a profound connection with your ex.
And if that’s something you want to do, then now is a great time to sign up for the Ex Program.