I need advice.Sorry for the long post, I would really appreciate it if you read it.I have a very strange situation to handle.I don't know how to get out of this situation?I'm writing this post because basically I'm lost.I don't know what to do?Four months ago we moved to my husband's hometown.His whole family is here.I am a 39year old 5ft10 tall heterosexual curvy hourgllass shaped attractive brunette.I I like dressing well, and looking presentable. I don't dress sl*tty at all.
My boobs are 32 f bra size though and I do have a big butt. My hourglass shape is unique and i am tall, and I appreciate that.If you are curvy, tall and busty, many clothes tend to look sexier on you than on a thin person. So things that fit properly that are relatively conservative can be suddenly too revealing and sexy when you put it on. This happens to me a lot.I wear almost always my satin and silk blouses fully buttoned to the top combined with a satin skirt or satin pants. I prefer wearing satin pants and a little shorter satin skirts, always above knees, sometimes even quite much, but not any miniskirts anyway.
I am always on high heels and full make up on.I am always in tight form fitting satin and silk clothes. I am a stylish person.I usually stay away from anything too revealing.I am describing myself because i want you to know the complexity of the situation.On november 1st i started working at my mother's in law company.My husband's aunt his mother's younger sister works there.She is skinny really short like 5ft3 wrinkled face thin lips creepy green eyes grayhaired masculine 53year old woman.She started touching me on my first day there.
She said that she likes to caress satin fabric and that silk and satin is so smooth to the touch when rubbing.She said that she just can’t resist touching and stroking satin fabric.She started rubbing my back,touching my hair,wrap her hands around my waist, tight from behind and hugging me (for no reason) while I am busy at various tasks.On my first day she came up behind me while I was at my desk and started rubbing my shoulders.I decided to try tolerating it, since this woman is my husband's aunt.
She always touches me, hugs me, holds my hand, places her arm around my waist.She puts her arms around me when we're standing side-by-side and talking and she randomly comes by at my office and gives me shoulder and back massages.She is always constantly patting my lower back and touching my hair.She is always hugging me around my waist.Sometimes several hugs in a row.She also always place her hand on my ass when i stand beside her.
Also because she is really short and i am tall always when she is hugging me she is pressing her face on my breasts and she is "accidentally"coping a feel of my butt. She is always placing her hands on my breasts while facing me talking about work .Any time I'm even within arm's reach of her, I feel her caressing me.When I show her something on the computer screen , she has to lean (with some force) on me.One time at her office we were working on something. I started to rise from the chair while she was still sitting, and she then reached over and squeezed my butt about four or five times quickly.
I pulled away, but it took me by such surprise I didn't know what to do, and I actually laughed, even though that was the last thing I felt like doing.Also she is constantly 'accidentally' brushing her face against my breasts while walking by me or when we are engaged in a task.She seems harmless to me because I am physically stronger than her i am 5ft10 tall well built well endowed and curvy.She is like 5ft3 tall skinny.I am always on high heels she is always in flat shoes.Standing next to me she looks like a midget.She always links arms with me and walks leaning into me.
But all the touching has been getting creepy.She isn't a horrible woman she is really very pleasant but something about her and her need to hug or touch me makes me very uncomfortable.Now I don't want her to feel badly - but I want this touching,rubbing and hugging behaviour to stop.What can I say to her, or what can I do so this'll stop?How do I tell her off without causing tension at work and in the family?How can I discourage this woman my husband's aunt from touching me/hugging me/getting in my personal space in a way that makes me uncomfortable without offending her?
I know that many women have to deal with worse, and I should just "man up", but I am an extremely non-confrontational person, and I usually prefer to endure something uncomfortable than draw attention or displease the other person.I don't know her very well and don't want to push any sensitive buttons.She is never touching me in front of my mother in law.My mother in law is very protective of her.My husband and I have been married for 8 years and have a 7year old daughter! When I started dating my husband my future mother-in-law immediately tried to break us up and has talked about me horribly to my husband since then.
Trust me, I have tried to apologize many times for misunderstandings (mostly in the beginning of our relationship over 10 years ago) and slowly backed away as she continued to be quite mean/abusive and wouldn’t change no matter what we tried to do.My husband doesn't have the balls to say ANYTHING to her.She is always commenting on my clothing saying that i am overdressed.I am dressing like this since i graduated college and got my first office job.It is my whole wardrobe.Its how i like to dress myself and that is my style.
I always like to dress on my best, because I also feel great when I’m dressed pretty. Once, i’d been to the hairdressers and was off to do a little shopping afterwards and the girl at the salon asked where i was going looking so glamorous – i said i was going shopping and she was like “really? You look so glammed up to be going shopping!” I don’t mind though, i’d rather be wearing something i feel good in than look like i just rolled out of bed.I wear high heels every day too.All the time. I work i do everything i can to get my mother in law to like me but she says no my husband don't understand why is mom feels like this.
I've got to be careful and handle this gracefully.My mother in law is very attached to her younger sister.I really don't know what to do?There is nothing more i can do. Either i take it the way it is, or i just tell my husband's aunt to stop, which of course involves the risk that it messes up everything. And probably it will no matter what i say.How do I tell her off without causing tension? She is extremely touchy and feely with me.She does have "power" over me. She can muck things up for me with her sister my mother in law.
- I can't just quit this job.This is a smallish town.There aren’t many job opportunities.I fear I won’t be able to find work.I really need this salary. We were forced to move from the suburbs to my husband's hometown , due to financial constraints.My husband business venture collapsed.We lost our home.Settling into our new home was hard.My husband is depressed.His depression is hurting our day-to-day life, and I admit to feeling very frustrated sometimes.I love my husband dearly, but I’m having a really hard time feeling 100% respectful of him right now, and I hate that feeling.How can I help him and support him when I’m feeling so scared and frustrated myself?His mother is a very successful local business woman.She has built her company from scratch.My mother in law spends very little time at the office.Her sister my husband's aunt is running the office for her.Other women there my coworkers(all female workplace) think that i am stuck up and arrogant upper middle class snob.I feel like these women my mother in law's employees don't really like me.Me being spineless is due to my intense fear of conflict with this short skinny mature woman my husband's aunt. I just automatically want to do everything possible to keep conflict down with her and I always sacrifice my dignity for it. I tell myself that "next time" I will say NO to her. Always "next time" but next time never comes.This woman my husband's aunt is a squeeze hugger that lasts too long in a vice grip.She is important to me as a coworker and family member,so I'm willing to sit/stand out the awkward touching and hugging and just think of something else while it's happening.She is being unnecessarily touchy-feely.She tends to stand really close – it’s like she doesn’t seem to respect my personal space. It is getting very uncomfortable.The other day she needed to ask me a question. My client and I were so engrossed on our project that neither of us noticed her walk in. She put her both hands around my waist to get my attention. Then she kept her hands there until I finished my answer to her. I felt awkward about it, but didn't want to say or do anything in front of the client. A half-hour later I felt it was too weird to bring it up, so I just let it go. She would touch me a lot on my hands, shoulders and back when discussing work-related topics.She finds any excuse to touch me.The other day she hugged me from behind when I was sitting down and stroked my breasts before moving to my shoulders.She leans over me when I show her something on the computer screen.She is not very aware of personal space, she tends to stand very close and walk so close that she can trip me, she also always puts her face very close to my breasts.I have no desire to do anything sexual with a women.I am 100% straight.I've never had any desire to do anything sexual with a female. In all honest just thinking about possibly kissing a female makes me cringe.
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