Husband with low testosterone watches porn

[Ana C]

Been together for almost 5 years. Married for 2. He's 34 and I'm 30. When we met our sex life was great. We'd have sex a few times a week. He was then diagnosed with low testosterone this year. He never went back for a follow up out of fear and disappointment as we want kids someday. I tried nagging him to go and see what his options are but he hasn't gone. It has now been 10 months since we last had sex. I've talked to him about but all he does is feel like a failure. So then I feel bad. He's very loving, very caring and is in physically good shape. He has some depression bouts but they come in waves. So then I discover that he's watching porn. I believe he does it when I go to bed at night. Our work schedules are very different and he comes home late and i go to bed when he comes home. He kisses me good night and then he watches porn. I don't know for how long or what he watches but I've come down and he hides himself quickly, shutting his computer or phone. I ask him what's wrong but he completely denies he was doing anything. This has happened a few times. I tell him I don't have a problem with porn only until it takes place of our marriage and in this case, I feel like it is. I have justified his actions because of his low testosterone but honestly, if he's doing this constantly and not even interested to touch me or even get help it concerns me. He tells me that he loves me and shows affection with kisses and hugs. it's only when it comes to sex that he is cold. I have suffered rejection many times from him that I have felt ugly, unwanted, I've felt resentful, and stunned. What hurts is that he's lying to me about it. Making me think there's something going on. I caught him one day and he was watching a porno about a woman having sex with a married man. I'm not kidding. He denied it of course. He flat out denied it. Please help, I need advice. I don't know who to talk to, who to turn to. I have given this man so much of myself and have sacrificed my sex life just so he can watch hookers on an led screen. Any advice is appreciated

[Taurus17]

Hello
There are many mens wellness centers where he can go and get t injections....Watching porn actually lowers testosterone so he’s not doing himself any good there
He needs to do that to save his relationship end of story

[Olivia]

With low levels of testosterone in the male body this can cause havoc on a relationship or a family. With good open communication with your partner or family members can ease the stress and personal insecurities that one may feel. When symptoms of low self esteem, depression, and mood swings start occurring this will not only affect the household but could also affect how the person performs at work. These symptoms can really make a man feel insecure about his role as father and husband and because low testosterone causes male erectile dysfunction this really affects the male psyche and can cause men to lose the desire to have an active sex life.

Some of the reasons for males to have low testosterone can be a result of issues with being overweight, sleep apnea, diabetes, hypertension, poor circulation, age and etc. This testosterone deficiency is called Hypogonadism. With obesity rising in the U.S. men are showing more signs of low testosterone. Obesity causes higher levels of estrogen in the body which lowers the testosterone production in the male body. Testosterone is an awesome fat burning hormone. But when the testosterone levels drop in the body fat burning slows down and this can cause clogging of the arteries and cause fatal heart disease.

If your husband is feeling fatigue, lack of energy, depression, low libido or no sex drive, call your physician and request that a testosterone check be done. This is a simple blood test that can really make a change in your life.

There are several ways to your husband can get his testosterone back up, some are natural ways, there is also testosterone therapy which is prescribed by your physician and there are also natural testosterone supplements. Many times he can increase his testosterone by regular exercise, or by adequate sleep, and by reducing stress in your life. There are also many herbal supplements on the market in enhance the testosterone levels in your bodies system. Be careful and consult an expert when taking supplements.

First, is to consult with your physician and have his testosterone levels checked and go from there. If your levels are low consult with your physician about the options that are out on the market and do some research for yourself before making any decisions.

[Brett]

Low testosterone is a problem that is treatable. So, there is no need for your husband to feel hopeless. Consult a good physician and the issue will be permanently resolved.