I'm hoping for advice. I wasn't looking for anything. 9 years married, 2 kids. I'm content. I'm a stay at home dad so it magnifies my issues also. She was a vet, it was love at first site, mutually. We had a chemistry one visit, the next around Halloween she knew I had kids and ask if they had a good Halloween. I asked her how hers was, she said she is single and no kids so she didn't do anything. I've never flirted, never looked at other women, as she walked to the door I said "if I wasn't married you wouldn't be single". So embarrassing right?
She replied though. "If you're ever single you call me", I mentioned that she has my number on file, she said she can't use client files like that. She then says I should but ill give you my cell on her business card. She said text if you are ever available. Well I left, I needed to ask her about meds so I texted. Well its 4 weeks straight that we have been messaging all day to each other. We discovered we both had an incredible feeling when we saw each other. We decided to meet to see what it was.
We met at a park, walked, talked and she wanted a kiss to see if it was just a look or more. We kissed. We missed more. We are as close to in love as one can get. This woman has brought out a romantic side of me that I thought died. I admittedly married to settle with a safe woman. I was content and not unhappy. We were planning to have a third child, still working on it. I don't know if I go with my heart that's sounds selfish or with my wife. The vet told me I can stay at home and still run my children's life. My wife has no idea this is going on. I can end it still.
I've never felt this happy with someone, we wrote love letters, we chat 24/7 non stop. We have a ton in common, something my wife and I don't. I've read articles going both ways. The only hiccup in all this is the vet said she isn't sure how she will feel if I have a baby but she wants time to make sure we are this in love. I will note zero sex has occurred. I told her I don't want a sexual affair. We both desire it but we are having so much fun without it.
I read so many stories, some say it'll be the biggest mistake of my life to leave if I'm content. Others say your heart wants what it wants. I've been leaning vet, she brought out lots of memories of my childhood, she enjoys things I enjoy, she is my true love. But I'm afraid it could die based on articles. As a stay at home dad I lost any career chances doing this, I can't afford to be alone on my own. Its just a weird situation because I'm given the option to still run my kids world which mattered most to me.
Should I be selfish and go with my heart, keep meeting her and seeing if its still this good down the road or stay with my family and maybe lose the first woman I ever felt this connected with?
Thanks
She replied though. "If you're ever single you call me", I mentioned that she has my number on file, she said she can't use client files like that. She then says I should but ill give you my cell on her business card. She said text if you are ever available. Well I left, I needed to ask her about meds so I texted. Well its 4 weeks straight that we have been messaging all day to each other. We discovered we both had an incredible feeling when we saw each other. We decided to meet to see what it was.
We met at a park, walked, talked and she wanted a kiss to see if it was just a look or more. We kissed. We missed more. We are as close to in love as one can get. This woman has brought out a romantic side of me that I thought died. I admittedly married to settle with a safe woman. I was content and not unhappy. We were planning to have a third child, still working on it. I don't know if I go with my heart that's sounds selfish or with my wife. The vet told me I can stay at home and still run my children's life. My wife has no idea this is going on. I can end it still.
I've never felt this happy with someone, we wrote love letters, we chat 24/7 non stop. We have a ton in common, something my wife and I don't. I've read articles going both ways. The only hiccup in all this is the vet said she isn't sure how she will feel if I have a baby but she wants time to make sure we are this in love. I will note zero sex has occurred. I told her I don't want a sexual affair. We both desire it but we are having so much fun without it.
I read so many stories, some say it'll be the biggest mistake of my life to leave if I'm content. Others say your heart wants what it wants. I've been leaning vet, she brought out lots of memories of my childhood, she enjoys things I enjoy, she is my true love. But I'm afraid it could die based on articles. As a stay at home dad I lost any career chances doing this, I can't afford to be alone on my own. Its just a weird situation because I'm given the option to still run my kids world which mattered most to me.
Should I be selfish and go with my heart, keep meeting her and seeing if its still this good down the road or stay with my family and maybe lose the first woman I ever felt this connected with?
Thanks
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