Would love everyone's input on this question.
I am currently separated and am waiting to get my divorce finalized before starting to date. I am using this time to become the best woman I can be.
Part of this process for me is to look at what went wrong in my marriage (other than that I picked a very broken man).
I found that I over-functioned in my marriage and the worse things got, the more I gave. From what I have been learning, this was a big mistake.
I am a very giving, nurturing person. Can I be too generous in a relationship?
Giving is a part of who I am and I don't want to make the same mistake again. I derive tremendous pleasure out of giving to those around me, without the expectation of getting something in return.
How do I stay true to my authentic self in a relationship, without over-doing the giving part?
When I care about someone, I want to show them. It could be cooking them something special, showing them appreciation with words of encouragement or doing something for them.
This has been very successful with my children and friends, but not
so much in my marriage. I don't know if it was because he wasn't capable of receiving love or if it was something that I was doing wrong.
I know it's hard to be able to answer this question without knowing the whole situation. My view of giving to a partner is that we would both give to each other in ways that show the other person how special and loved they are.
Since I can't control how the other person does things, I give to show my side of the love. I don't know if this makes sense.
Thanks for your input
I am currently separated and am waiting to get my divorce finalized before starting to date. I am using this time to become the best woman I can be.
Part of this process for me is to look at what went wrong in my marriage (other than that I picked a very broken man).
I found that I over-functioned in my marriage and the worse things got, the more I gave. From what I have been learning, this was a big mistake.
I am a very giving, nurturing person. Can I be too generous in a relationship?
Giving is a part of who I am and I don't want to make the same mistake again. I derive tremendous pleasure out of giving to those around me, without the expectation of getting something in return.
How do I stay true to my authentic self in a relationship, without over-doing the giving part?
When I care about someone, I want to show them. It could be cooking them something special, showing them appreciation with words of encouragement or doing something for them.
This has been very successful with my children and friends, but not
so much in my marriage. I don't know if it was because he wasn't capable of receiving love or if it was something that I was doing wrong.
I know it's hard to be able to answer this question without knowing the whole situation. My view of giving to a partner is that we would both give to each other in ways that show the other person how special and loved they are.
Since I can't control how the other person does things, I give to show my side of the love. I don't know if this makes sense.
Thanks for your input
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