Hello guys!
I don't know where to begin, so I normally don't talk about myself to others because i find it very embarrassing and i usually keep things to myself, but it makes me feel very sad and depressed at times. So basically, I am 24 and i am still a virgin, I've been in two relationships and they've only lasted longer than a few months. During my last relationship which was three years ago, i had strong feelings for my ex and we talked about having sex for a couple of months during our relationship which only lasted 8 months by the way. So one day it was in the summer time and we were at a hotel and the mood was right and everything and we became very intimate however as we was trying to penetrate me, i guess it was like hitting a brick wall and it was very painful and we got nowhere and I wasn't upset it was our first time so we knew that this would've happened. Then a few weeks later we tried again, the mood was right we did foreplay and etc. and again it was like hitting a brick wall and he couldn't penetrate me and he got kind of upset but he let it go. Then, on several other attempts he tried again and still nothing was happening we weren't having sex, and at the time I didn't know what to do and he was getting very frustrated because he really wanted to have sex with me. But, I felt very upset and disappointed that this was happening to me and all my friends never experienced this and i couldn't figure out why. My body usually starts to tense up when he tries to penetrate me and i find it really hard to relax and be calm, even though we did a lot of foreplay, he still wasn't able to penetrate me. So, fast forward three years later i tried to do it again with another guy that i was seeing and yet again it was another road block we didn't have intercourse because i couldn't bare the pain and my body froze and started tensing up. So, i basically gave up dating for a while because i didn't want to enter a relationship and go through the same embarrassment, of not being able to have sex, its not like i don't want to do it but i feel like my body gets so tensed that i just don't know how to relax it and yes i tried a few sex toys like vibrators but those don't help me. I also self diagnosed my self and also thought that i suffered from Vaginismis-(pain during intercourse )which is very uncommon during sexual intercourse, and whole bunch of other stuff. It makes me very sad its like i want to date and meet new people but at the same time do I want to put my partner through this embarrassment, I'm not sure of what to do. Any advice would be great please
I don't know where to begin, so I normally don't talk about myself to others because i find it very embarrassing and i usually keep things to myself, but it makes me feel very sad and depressed at times. So basically, I am 24 and i am still a virgin, I've been in two relationships and they've only lasted longer than a few months. During my last relationship which was three years ago, i had strong feelings for my ex and we talked about having sex for a couple of months during our relationship which only lasted 8 months by the way. So one day it was in the summer time and we were at a hotel and the mood was right and everything and we became very intimate however as we was trying to penetrate me, i guess it was like hitting a brick wall and it was very painful and we got nowhere and I wasn't upset it was our first time so we knew that this would've happened. Then a few weeks later we tried again, the mood was right we did foreplay and etc. and again it was like hitting a brick wall and he couldn't penetrate me and he got kind of upset but he let it go. Then, on several other attempts he tried again and still nothing was happening we weren't having sex, and at the time I didn't know what to do and he was getting very frustrated because he really wanted to have sex with me. But, I felt very upset and disappointed that this was happening to me and all my friends never experienced this and i couldn't figure out why. My body usually starts to tense up when he tries to penetrate me and i find it really hard to relax and be calm, even though we did a lot of foreplay, he still wasn't able to penetrate me. So, fast forward three years later i tried to do it again with another guy that i was seeing and yet again it was another road block we didn't have intercourse because i couldn't bare the pain and my body froze and started tensing up. So, i basically gave up dating for a while because i didn't want to enter a relationship and go through the same embarrassment, of not being able to have sex, its not like i don't want to do it but i feel like my body gets so tensed that i just don't know how to relax it and yes i tried a few sex toys like vibrators but those don't help me. I also self diagnosed my self and also thought that i suffered from Vaginismis-(pain during intercourse )which is very uncommon during sexual intercourse, and whole bunch of other stuff. It makes me very sad its like i want to date and meet new people but at the same time do I want to put my partner through this embarrassment, I'm not sure of what to do. Any advice would be great please
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