I'd been seeing this gal I was rather fond of but made some tactical errors along the way.
As I permitted myself to be locked down by a certain woman, I lost all leadership status and spent the last two months being emotionally blackmailed by her.
This has been pure misery and underscores the importance of having dating options and not getting rid of those options because a woman you're seeing wants to be exclusive.
Furthermore, I learned a valuable lesson in being aware of any incongruencies. For example, although we were supposed to be in an exclusive relationship, she didn't behave in a way that I would expect a committed woman would.
Such as staying the night with me and then lying in bed with me the next morning texting her guy "friend" co-worker about dinner plans...this really upset me but I didn't say anything as I didn't want to appear controlling.
This gal would say the most endearing things when we're together but then needed her "space" and when I tried to make plans with her she would throw out the "controlling" card and say she's done...only to come back for sex and start the whole cycle again.
She would say she adores me, loves spending time with me, can't wait to see me etc., but dare I mention getting together more than a couple times a week or question this so called "friend" she would have a melt down.
Any advice/thoughts would be helpful and much appreciated.
As I permitted myself to be locked down by a certain woman, I lost all leadership status and spent the last two months being emotionally blackmailed by her.
This has been pure misery and underscores the importance of having dating options and not getting rid of those options because a woman you're seeing wants to be exclusive.
Furthermore, I learned a valuable lesson in being aware of any incongruencies. For example, although we were supposed to be in an exclusive relationship, she didn't behave in a way that I would expect a committed woman would.
Such as staying the night with me and then lying in bed with me the next morning texting her guy "friend" co-worker about dinner plans...this really upset me but I didn't say anything as I didn't want to appear controlling.
This gal would say the most endearing things when we're together but then needed her "space" and when I tried to make plans with her she would throw out the "controlling" card and say she's done...only to come back for sex and start the whole cycle again.
She would say she adores me, loves spending time with me, can't wait to see me etc., but dare I mention getting together more than a couple times a week or question this so called "friend" she would have a melt down.
Any advice/thoughts would be helpful and much appreciated.
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