Hello! I'm in need of some advice or thougths about my current relationship sitaution because honestly idk what to do.
So me and my bf has been together for about a year and a half now. and our relationship has been through a lot. Here is how it began:
When me and him first started seing eachother he had broken up with his ex quite recently, which made me scared to start dating him. But he assured me he was over her and i believed him.
But then after 2 months of dating this happened:
- I found out he had been talking to his ex in secret on fb about missing eachother and stuff like that which broke my heart
- After confronting him about it he told me he didnt know what he was going to do and that he was confused
- So i broke it off and said that if i'm not your only choice I can't be with you.(even tho i had strong feelings for him already at this point)
- Weeks went by and he started to text and call me, but i ignored him for a while
- Then eventually i picked up and he wanted to meet. So we talked and he told me he had met up with his ex but that it was a mistake and that I was the one he loved but it took loosing me to realise it.
- Then I took him back and decided to give him another chance.
So yeah, this was last year. The problem is that after all of that happened I never really could trust him again. I have tried but he keeps doing these little things that make me suspicious of him. Like most men do, he likes to tell little white lies about stuff and when i bust him about it, it always turns into this huge fight because i want him to be only honest with me. He says he only lies because he's scared I will get angry about the truth. But honestly the truth never makes me as mad as him lying to me.
His opinon on this is that i'm overreacting all the time, that the white lies isn't a big deal and that I should trust him.
I know that sometimes I overreact but i feel like i can't help it. Him lying about his ex in the beginning really left a mark on me and has made me unwilling to trust. So what should I do? Leave him? Maybe I need to get help from a therapist? Idk
So me and my bf has been together for about a year and a half now. and our relationship has been through a lot. Here is how it began:
When me and him first started seing eachother he had broken up with his ex quite recently, which made me scared to start dating him. But he assured me he was over her and i believed him.
But then after 2 months of dating this happened:
- I found out he had been talking to his ex in secret on fb about missing eachother and stuff like that which broke my heart
- After confronting him about it he told me he didnt know what he was going to do and that he was confused
- So i broke it off and said that if i'm not your only choice I can't be with you.(even tho i had strong feelings for him already at this point)
- Weeks went by and he started to text and call me, but i ignored him for a while
- Then eventually i picked up and he wanted to meet. So we talked and he told me he had met up with his ex but that it was a mistake and that I was the one he loved but it took loosing me to realise it.
- Then I took him back and decided to give him another chance.
So yeah, this was last year. The problem is that after all of that happened I never really could trust him again. I have tried but he keeps doing these little things that make me suspicious of him. Like most men do, he likes to tell little white lies about stuff and when i bust him about it, it always turns into this huge fight because i want him to be only honest with me. He says he only lies because he's scared I will get angry about the truth. But honestly the truth never makes me as mad as him lying to me.
His opinon on this is that i'm overreacting all the time, that the white lies isn't a big deal and that I should trust him.
I know that sometimes I overreact but i feel like i can't help it. Him lying about his ex in the beginning really left a mark on me and has made me unwilling to trust. So what should I do? Leave him? Maybe I need to get help from a therapist? Idk
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