I recently, after 6 years living with my ex husband...decided to move out of the house to get my life going. We were divorced after 1 year but still living together for the remaining 5. Needless to say, it was a toxic relationship that I had been over years ago...just because of finances...had no choice to stay in the house while I try to get my life back.
Well, Almost 4 months ago, on my travels, I met this debonair man. He was attractive, smart, successful and also divorced with 2 children. We instantly hit it off with chemistry, attraction. I mean...you name it. Which to be honest...prior to my ex....I never thought I would find another man to awaken me..and make me feel like I could love again...other then him.....I dare to admit that.
Though we only knew each other for a few weeks...he was texting me, calling me...wanting to take me out to functions....It was great. Whenever we got around each other...you literally had to pry him away from me and vice versa. Him being a business owner and quite busy...I loved that fact that if I texted him and told him how I wanted to see him....He would almost drop everything and come to see me.
I mean, everything was great. Sex, was unbelievable and dare I say better then anyone I have ever had in my life. I mean, our chemistry and connection was something you just can't fake.
Which leads me up to the reason I am writing.
Though it was a bit of a long distance dating situation....To me, it wasn't that bad. We both are from the Midwest but different cities. He has two homes but his work and main livelihood is in the midwest, while also having another place in the south....Which is where we met. Though, it's been get togethers when he's in town...or me traveling to see him...We were somewhat dating for about 2 months...casually.
Recently, I have noticed how he has all of a sudden become distant.....not calling, taking days to get back to me when texting..not having our long 3 hour conversations...that we use to have....(though I know that part would ease).
But the kicker of the whole thing is....He was supposed to come down and spend my birthday with me... something that was his idea to do... that I was so excited about and totally gung ho. But since the last time I went to see him and saw each other in person....it just has been different. When i finally could get him to agree to talk, though...in all fairness, he was recovering from a cold...he just didn't seem too enthusiastic about coming down. Though, in between that...he had to take his kids to Spring break back to his home in the south....that I let him know that I had work there and could be there around the same time.....once he heard that.....he was already planning to meet up with me no matter busy schedule with the kids or not.
So finally, after being a bit upset...to see that I was always the one willing to come to him and him not doing the same for me. I finally sent him an email stating that I was going to be taking some space. Because I didn't want to continue growing founder for someone who might not know what they wanted?
His response? he said...that he found it hard for him...because of our distance...he wasn't sure....He stated that with his kids, him having a million irons in the pot and with very little time for himself....the thought of getting on a plane to constantly see me...although he'd love to...would be hard. He said that he would want to meet up more on a regular basis like once or twice a week. So, he wish there was another way around it to make it work.
Well, behind this last email, I have not responded....because I was feeling hurt that...although these things are true....he has yet to come to see me at all. It's been me doing the traveling...so, for him to even bring this up...kind of baffled me. My thinking is....do it even once, before having a complaint! Not to mention, it was his idea to come down and spend my birthday with me....to fly in and us spend a few days....but once it got down to it..even that didn't happen!
My problem is.....I really, really, really, really like this guy and would hate to see us just end. But at the same time, I am won't be the only one doing the leg work when it comes to us seeing each other. I want someone that is going to be the same type of person towards me that I show them that I am. Yes, I don't have children nor businesses to run which makes me getting around more flexible. But should this be a reason why a guy shouldn't even try to come see me?
At this point, I know...because I told him that I would be taking space....the chances of him ever contacting me again are......well.....I don't know. At the same time....I miss him terribly.
I was wondering what could be done, if anything....at this point? Or is it all gone?
I would love to hear another voice other then my own. He hasn't contacted me since and nor I him...and it's been almost a week and a half. I am going crazy, severely depressed, eating more and genuinely feeling so much sadness.
On top of that...this is the weekend of my birthday that we were planning on being together...that won't happen at this point at all. I fear the longer it goes.....You could kiss it all good bye completely being it was so new. And lack of any communication. Also, because.... for whatever his reasons, which is his right?!...I refuse to budge and won't...especially when I know that I am right!!!
Is there any hope in this situation or no?
Thanks
Well, Almost 4 months ago, on my travels, I met this debonair man. He was attractive, smart, successful and also divorced with 2 children. We instantly hit it off with chemistry, attraction. I mean...you name it. Which to be honest...prior to my ex....I never thought I would find another man to awaken me..and make me feel like I could love again...other then him.....I dare to admit that.
Though we only knew each other for a few weeks...he was texting me, calling me...wanting to take me out to functions....It was great. Whenever we got around each other...you literally had to pry him away from me and vice versa. Him being a business owner and quite busy...I loved that fact that if I texted him and told him how I wanted to see him....He would almost drop everything and come to see me.
I mean, everything was great. Sex, was unbelievable and dare I say better then anyone I have ever had in my life. I mean, our chemistry and connection was something you just can't fake.
Which leads me up to the reason I am writing.
Though it was a bit of a long distance dating situation....To me, it wasn't that bad. We both are from the Midwest but different cities. He has two homes but his work and main livelihood is in the midwest, while also having another place in the south....Which is where we met. Though, it's been get togethers when he's in town...or me traveling to see him...We were somewhat dating for about 2 months...casually.
Recently, I have noticed how he has all of a sudden become distant.....not calling, taking days to get back to me when texting..not having our long 3 hour conversations...that we use to have....(though I know that part would ease).
But the kicker of the whole thing is....He was supposed to come down and spend my birthday with me... something that was his idea to do... that I was so excited about and totally gung ho. But since the last time I went to see him and saw each other in person....it just has been different. When i finally could get him to agree to talk, though...in all fairness, he was recovering from a cold...he just didn't seem too enthusiastic about coming down. Though, in between that...he had to take his kids to Spring break back to his home in the south....that I let him know that I had work there and could be there around the same time.....once he heard that.....he was already planning to meet up with me no matter busy schedule with the kids or not.
So finally, after being a bit upset...to see that I was always the one willing to come to him and him not doing the same for me. I finally sent him an email stating that I was going to be taking some space. Because I didn't want to continue growing founder for someone who might not know what they wanted?
His response? he said...that he found it hard for him...because of our distance...he wasn't sure....He stated that with his kids, him having a million irons in the pot and with very little time for himself....the thought of getting on a plane to constantly see me...although he'd love to...would be hard. He said that he would want to meet up more on a regular basis like once or twice a week. So, he wish there was another way around it to make it work.
Well, behind this last email, I have not responded....because I was feeling hurt that...although these things are true....he has yet to come to see me at all. It's been me doing the traveling...so, for him to even bring this up...kind of baffled me. My thinking is....do it even once, before having a complaint! Not to mention, it was his idea to come down and spend my birthday with me....to fly in and us spend a few days....but once it got down to it..even that didn't happen!
My problem is.....I really, really, really, really like this guy and would hate to see us just end. But at the same time, I am won't be the only one doing the leg work when it comes to us seeing each other. I want someone that is going to be the same type of person towards me that I show them that I am. Yes, I don't have children nor businesses to run which makes me getting around more flexible. But should this be a reason why a guy shouldn't even try to come see me?
At this point, I know...because I told him that I would be taking space....the chances of him ever contacting me again are......well.....I don't know. At the same time....I miss him terribly.
I was wondering what could be done, if anything....at this point? Or is it all gone?
I would love to hear another voice other then my own. He hasn't contacted me since and nor I him...and it's been almost a week and a half. I am going crazy, severely depressed, eating more and genuinely feeling so much sadness.
On top of that...this is the weekend of my birthday that we were planning on being together...that won't happen at this point at all. I fear the longer it goes.....You could kiss it all good bye completely being it was so new. And lack of any communication. Also, because.... for whatever his reasons, which is his right?!...I refuse to budge and won't...especially when I know that I am right!!!
Is there any hope in this situation or no?
Thanks
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