I would like to your thoughts on my current situation.
It's not exactly a crisis or anything dramatic - I like to check the status of my relationship and pay attention to how I handle the 'smaller' things as well as the big.
I live in the UK and I met a girl in California in June, and hung with her/her friends and also met her family for a few days, kept in very regular contact over the months that followed getting to know her gradually (deeper stuff like values and future hopes as well as the usual), then spent part of my Xmas holiday over there again with her.
We got on really well and Skyped regularly afterward, then in late February I decided to ask her to be my girlfriend.
This is actually my first serious relationship and the long distance situation without any physicality has proved to be challenging to say the least.
Recently I sense a decline taking place, she's testing me more, becoming very casual with our Skype 'dates', not bothering to wear make-up and generally disinterest/disengagement in conversation showing.
Quite a contrast to how things were.
Maybe individually these things do not make a big deal, but together I feel they could be signs of a deeper, underlying problem. I really want to take charge of this situation, but in the best way.
When I've dated women in person I've managed to keep attraction level consistent and respond to tests in a way that demonstrates that I can stand up for myself (without being a domineering jack ass), however I feel like things are slipping in this relationship.
I'd really like your advice on the responding to tests in the best way (she is quite a sensitive person) and the best ideas/mind-set for keeping attraction in this particular situation (specifically between our face to face meetings).
If you have any other thoughts that you feel are more important for relationship management/addressing situations early then I'd love to hear them.
I'd just like to end by saying I've really benefited from your advice and products so far so thank you for the work you do.
It's not exactly a crisis or anything dramatic - I like to check the status of my relationship and pay attention to how I handle the 'smaller' things as well as the big.
I live in the UK and I met a girl in California in June, and hung with her/her friends and also met her family for a few days, kept in very regular contact over the months that followed getting to know her gradually (deeper stuff like values and future hopes as well as the usual), then spent part of my Xmas holiday over there again with her.
We got on really well and Skyped regularly afterward, then in late February I decided to ask her to be my girlfriend.
This is actually my first serious relationship and the long distance situation without any physicality has proved to be challenging to say the least.
Recently I sense a decline taking place, she's testing me more, becoming very casual with our Skype 'dates', not bothering to wear make-up and generally disinterest/disengagement in conversation showing.
Quite a contrast to how things were.
Maybe individually these things do not make a big deal, but together I feel they could be signs of a deeper, underlying problem. I really want to take charge of this situation, but in the best way.
When I've dated women in person I've managed to keep attraction level consistent and respond to tests in a way that demonstrates that I can stand up for myself (without being a domineering jack ass), however I feel like things are slipping in this relationship.
I'd really like your advice on the responding to tests in the best way (she is quite a sensitive person) and the best ideas/mind-set for keeping attraction in this particular situation (specifically between our face to face meetings).
If you have any other thoughts that you feel are more important for relationship management/addressing situations early then I'd love to hear them.
I'd just like to end by saying I've really benefited from your advice and products so far so thank you for the work you do.
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