So, long story short.
Me and my GF have been together for 3.5 years were long distance right now, we werent at first but she moved for school and gradusted. We Never ever had any big arguments until 5 or 6 months ago. We were planning the next stages of our life and moving together with each other to NY/CT and we've been arguing about where to find a place at and a few other things that have came up during these past several months.
I have been really stressed out at my job and have been a little bit less patient and frustrated. Im usually very patient and understanding. Which is no excuse and it is absolutely my fault for letting my job get me out of character. But im sure its been making her feel unimportant and not special. Because she is very special to me and I love her very much.
We broke up 2 weeks ago.. but when we broke up for 25 minutes she was crying and saying how she didn't want to break up with me and that she loves me so much and just didn't want to do it over and over again... but then it happened.
I have talked to one of her friends who I'm cool with and that shes known for about 6 years. She says that she still loves me and is very sad about all the things we arent going to do now ( like our trips we had planned. ) and she says she isn't doing well about the break up and said she needed her space and that I was doing things she didn't like. ( which I know what they were because they were happening a lot during the past several months. ) I have wholeheartedly apologized for these things, not because I just wanna have her back but because I actually know and realize the things I did and want to make it right.
But she has another friend that shes been hanging with alot and she is the worst person to take advice from an my gf im sure has been taking her advice. This is the same girl who keeps dating the **** guys who treat her like **** and keeps going back and forth to them. So I hate this thought that she may have some influencing on her.
My ex/gf will look at my messages immediately when I see them and just not respond. She will also respond to other people through my phone.
( For example, my friend took my phone on accident at my house the other day contacted her to find a way to get a hold of me and she answered him through my phone. )
She also still has me added on FB , it still says in a relationship and still reads my message so I'm really lost on what to do especially since.. I've recently gotten contacted about some jobs in those places that I applied to so that I could move there with her.
I dont know what to do, and I really dont want to lose her. Maybe someone has an outside outlook on this? That maybe they can help me understand just in case im missing something.
Thank you all in advance!
if you need any more info feel free to ask me. Because this is just the short version. I'm really upset and want to figure this out.
Me and my GF have been together for 3.5 years were long distance right now, we werent at first but she moved for school and gradusted. We Never ever had any big arguments until 5 or 6 months ago. We were planning the next stages of our life and moving together with each other to NY/CT and we've been arguing about where to find a place at and a few other things that have came up during these past several months.
I have been really stressed out at my job and have been a little bit less patient and frustrated. Im usually very patient and understanding. Which is no excuse and it is absolutely my fault for letting my job get me out of character. But im sure its been making her feel unimportant and not special. Because she is very special to me and I love her very much.
We broke up 2 weeks ago.. but when we broke up for 25 minutes she was crying and saying how she didn't want to break up with me and that she loves me so much and just didn't want to do it over and over again... but then it happened.
I have talked to one of her friends who I'm cool with and that shes known for about 6 years. She says that she still loves me and is very sad about all the things we arent going to do now ( like our trips we had planned. ) and she says she isn't doing well about the break up and said she needed her space and that I was doing things she didn't like. ( which I know what they were because they were happening a lot during the past several months. ) I have wholeheartedly apologized for these things, not because I just wanna have her back but because I actually know and realize the things I did and want to make it right.
But she has another friend that shes been hanging with alot and she is the worst person to take advice from an my gf im sure has been taking her advice. This is the same girl who keeps dating the **** guys who treat her like **** and keeps going back and forth to them. So I hate this thought that she may have some influencing on her.
My ex/gf will look at my messages immediately when I see them and just not respond. She will also respond to other people through my phone.
( For example, my friend took my phone on accident at my house the other day contacted her to find a way to get a hold of me and she answered him through my phone. )
She also still has me added on FB , it still says in a relationship and still reads my message so I'm really lost on what to do especially since.. I've recently gotten contacted about some jobs in those places that I applied to so that I could move there with her.
I dont know what to do, and I really dont want to lose her. Maybe someone has an outside outlook on this? That maybe they can help me understand just in case im missing something.
Thank you all in advance!
if you need any more info feel free to ask me. Because this is just the short version. I'm really upset and want to figure this out.
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