My Apologies my story a bit long!!
We met 11 months ago in London. We clicked and connected right away. We laughed we talk about all our worries about everything our feelings to each other attraction and eventually unannounced we felt deep in love. We both divorced last year and saw so many similarities from our past issues and previous relationships and we both discussed all we want from each other and be sure not to repeated the same mistakes and learned from our past. I felt we both ticked each other boxes as 2 people with experienced. We realised we want to be in the life of each other and start making plans for future to have a house and start a family together once we both sort out a few financial situation. He was, when we met in a very stressing job as head of a large company. He was always stressed and worried that he was not getting the result needed to keep the company at flow. I motivated him support him give him the strength he needed to keep going and support his idea of looking for a new job. Suddenly 5 months after we were going very strong and serious he lost his job and just blocked me on wahtssap and on his phone that same day without a word. I was devastated and lost. I could not make sense of it as the day before we were normal and saying our love for each other than seeing myself being cut off with no word was hard on me. He sent me an email telling me he was a mess he needed time to get himself back and figured out his life. I tried to give him courage even though I was very hurt that he cut me off without a discussion and a decision together. As we were more of a team , as if we knew other a lifetime. 5 weeks later, after this hard disappointment from my side and a hard acceptance of things he made contact again. And told me he was still out of job and he loves me he was just lost himself than he wanted us to go strong together for good. We went back together stronger than before. Supporting him with the jobs hunts getting closer and closer. Then 10 weeks later he got a job offer to Washington in the US. He came my house, we discussed the benefits of the job wish we both knew he needs to feel fulfil as a man and all the aspect of a long distance relationship. I supported him and motivated him for the job as I knew how hard it is for him to find a Job in London and financially could not go more than 3 months without one. We decided that our relation is strong and we will video call chat talk etc..and he told me of his vision for the next position within the same company in 2 years time a position which will allow him to come back to London and be base there. This way we could start our life together getting a house and have kids if lucky etc..We told each other that communication was key and our best way to go through the 2 years contract. And we would travel occasionally to see each other. He flew there end of June. He became very stressed of lacking staff and managers and feel estranged in a new country with no real friend and none there. At this stage he was doing 15 hours work a day until he can hired new staff to cover some areas. We texted each day morning and night and talk every few days. I keep encouraging him and support him. A couple of weeks ago I noticed our text and contact getting shorter and less. I texted him and told him to call me so we can discussed and make sure our relation does not go ashtray as we cannot be physically together we have to talk and see what we need to do to get over a rough period which we both were having . He texted me saying" I AM IN A MEETING" . Then the next day He said again I AM IN A MEETING. Then never called. Before I know I got a text saying " I do not want to let you go but I feel I need to as I need to focus solely on work which is where I am. And I need time to deal with all issues as I am under snow by work." That was 7 days ago. I texted him after a few days broken upset he went on is promises on our promises to never let each other go, to be strong. But I get the same cold response " I am in meeting or I need time to deal with stuff" I asked him if he met someone he told me he has no time for this no one involved. I might sound silly to say as a grown woman but I am heartbroken. I feel I lost my man my friend my companion everything in a whim . He says he loves me but need to deal with what it is in front of him. I I feel so let down and feel our trust and bound is broken. I love him as much a woman can love rationally but I see a big hole in front of me at the moment. Will he ever come back? we were so good together it is amazing the interaction the friendship the passion we shared and now all is over and I feel lost and betrayed.
Regards,
Betinav
We met 11 months ago in London. We clicked and connected right away. We laughed we talk about all our worries about everything our feelings to each other attraction and eventually unannounced we felt deep in love. We both divorced last year and saw so many similarities from our past issues and previous relationships and we both discussed all we want from each other and be sure not to repeated the same mistakes and learned from our past. I felt we both ticked each other boxes as 2 people with experienced. We realised we want to be in the life of each other and start making plans for future to have a house and start a family together once we both sort out a few financial situation. He was, when we met in a very stressing job as head of a large company. He was always stressed and worried that he was not getting the result needed to keep the company at flow. I motivated him support him give him the strength he needed to keep going and support his idea of looking for a new job. Suddenly 5 months after we were going very strong and serious he lost his job and just blocked me on wahtssap and on his phone that same day without a word. I was devastated and lost. I could not make sense of it as the day before we were normal and saying our love for each other than seeing myself being cut off with no word was hard on me. He sent me an email telling me he was a mess he needed time to get himself back and figured out his life. I tried to give him courage even though I was very hurt that he cut me off without a discussion and a decision together. As we were more of a team , as if we knew other a lifetime. 5 weeks later, after this hard disappointment from my side and a hard acceptance of things he made contact again. And told me he was still out of job and he loves me he was just lost himself than he wanted us to go strong together for good. We went back together stronger than before. Supporting him with the jobs hunts getting closer and closer. Then 10 weeks later he got a job offer to Washington in the US. He came my house, we discussed the benefits of the job wish we both knew he needs to feel fulfil as a man and all the aspect of a long distance relationship. I supported him and motivated him for the job as I knew how hard it is for him to find a Job in London and financially could not go more than 3 months without one. We decided that our relation is strong and we will video call chat talk etc..and he told me of his vision for the next position within the same company in 2 years time a position which will allow him to come back to London and be base there. This way we could start our life together getting a house and have kids if lucky etc..We told each other that communication was key and our best way to go through the 2 years contract. And we would travel occasionally to see each other. He flew there end of June. He became very stressed of lacking staff and managers and feel estranged in a new country with no real friend and none there. At this stage he was doing 15 hours work a day until he can hired new staff to cover some areas. We texted each day morning and night and talk every few days. I keep encouraging him and support him. A couple of weeks ago I noticed our text and contact getting shorter and less. I texted him and told him to call me so we can discussed and make sure our relation does not go ashtray as we cannot be physically together we have to talk and see what we need to do to get over a rough period which we both were having . He texted me saying" I AM IN A MEETING" . Then the next day He said again I AM IN A MEETING. Then never called. Before I know I got a text saying " I do not want to let you go but I feel I need to as I need to focus solely on work which is where I am. And I need time to deal with all issues as I am under snow by work." That was 7 days ago. I texted him after a few days broken upset he went on is promises on our promises to never let each other go, to be strong. But I get the same cold response " I am in meeting or I need time to deal with stuff" I asked him if he met someone he told me he has no time for this no one involved. I might sound silly to say as a grown woman but I am heartbroken. I feel I lost my man my friend my companion everything in a whim . He says he loves me but need to deal with what it is in front of him. I I feel so let down and feel our trust and bound is broken. I love him as much a woman can love rationally but I see a big hole in front of me at the moment. Will he ever come back? we were so good together it is amazing the interaction the friendship the passion we shared and now all is over and I feel lost and betrayed.
Regards,
Betinav
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