I would love to ask for advice about my boyfriend.
I have been in a relationship (starting online) with him for 8 months. He lives in another country right now. He says he is separated, however, he still lives with his wife. He says until his youngest (14 ) is 18 and adult, he wont leave the family. He promises me he has no relations (sexual) with his wife. He says he sleeps on the couch or in a spare room. I'm not so sure.
Is this really possible and his kids 'dont know'? He says he is always up before them.
We see each other every 5 weeks. I fly to him or he to me. He intends to relocate to my country for a year at least in August. He was born where I live and wants to come home. He will be moving in with me. I am so excited.
I was married 30 years and my husband left me 5 times for another. I was devastated, and a 'basket-case' I couldn't take it any more. I left the family home and we divorced. Ange, I do not want to do to another family what was done to mine. To say I am naive?
Well I was, I had only really known one man. Now I am a bit more savvy vis a vis men and their weltanschauung. Sexually I have become very savvy as he has taught me stuff I could only dream about. Wow.
My children (28, 22 and 17) are very angry, disappointed and even disgusted that I am having this relationship.
My boyfriend tells me that only I know the truth about us, how he feels for me and I am in no way the reason for the breakdown of his marriage.
He even tried to talk to my son. I am in fact the third woman he has had relations with, since he 'left' his wife 3 years ago. And before he married he was a man of the world.
I have such very strong feelings for him. I know I have fallen in love with him: his personality, his mind, his body (especially) I do want to enjoy my life with him. We have an amazing time together, he tells me how much I mean to him, that he loves me, really loves me.
Am I being blinded by sweet nothings?
Its incredible that for an intelligent person I am so utterly bewildered by my lack of sense, foresight and even intuition.
Since entering the singles jungle I have realized what a new world we live in. I have met people who really are living in marriages that are over. But they are still there.
Please tell me if I am being delusional.
I have tried to gently probe this question and the reply is 'please wait, be patient.'
So I wait.....
I have been in a relationship (starting online) with him for 8 months. He lives in another country right now. He says he is separated, however, he still lives with his wife. He says until his youngest (14 ) is 18 and adult, he wont leave the family. He promises me he has no relations (sexual) with his wife. He says he sleeps on the couch or in a spare room. I'm not so sure.
Is this really possible and his kids 'dont know'? He says he is always up before them.
We see each other every 5 weeks. I fly to him or he to me. He intends to relocate to my country for a year at least in August. He was born where I live and wants to come home. He will be moving in with me. I am so excited.
I was married 30 years and my husband left me 5 times for another. I was devastated, and a 'basket-case' I couldn't take it any more. I left the family home and we divorced. Ange, I do not want to do to another family what was done to mine. To say I am naive?
Well I was, I had only really known one man. Now I am a bit more savvy vis a vis men and their weltanschauung. Sexually I have become very savvy as he has taught me stuff I could only dream about. Wow.
My children (28, 22 and 17) are very angry, disappointed and even disgusted that I am having this relationship.
My boyfriend tells me that only I know the truth about us, how he feels for me and I am in no way the reason for the breakdown of his marriage.
He even tried to talk to my son. I am in fact the third woman he has had relations with, since he 'left' his wife 3 years ago. And before he married he was a man of the world.
I have such very strong feelings for him. I know I have fallen in love with him: his personality, his mind, his body (especially) I do want to enjoy my life with him. We have an amazing time together, he tells me how much I mean to him, that he loves me, really loves me.
Am I being blinded by sweet nothings?
Its incredible that for an intelligent person I am so utterly bewildered by my lack of sense, foresight and even intuition.
Since entering the singles jungle I have realized what a new world we live in. I have met people who really are living in marriages that are over. But they are still there.
Please tell me if I am being delusional.
I have tried to gently probe this question and the reply is 'please wait, be patient.'
So I wait.....
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