Hello everyone,
I thought I'd share this message from one of the ladies in an online dating group I belong to.
It shows precisely what a man shouldn't do on a second date! This email from the dating trenches, as it were.
It's hard for women to deal with men like this, because although this man is a "nice guy" he doesn't seem to know anything about generating attraction!
"Pete arrived at my house and brought me Hershey kisses and some nice desserts he bought at the food store.
A big turn-off--he smelled very strongly of moth balls--yuck!
We drove down to the river and walked along the bank for about an hour and then wandered into the downtown.
Then we had a nice dinner.
He took half a vacation day to come see me today. He was as polite and chivalrous as he was on our first meeting.
He is way head over heels and I heard too many details about his personal life.
Heard about every operation he's had. I saw all the pictures on his smartphone--including one of him with his ex-wife.
He was married for 27 years and I am only the 5th woman he has dated. I am the only woman he has dated a second time.
He told me how much alimony he is paying--a lot--he must be making good money, LOL!
He talked about his divorce a lot. I kept changing the subject and he kept saying "I know. I know. I shouldn't be talking about this."
He even told me about the excel spreadsheet he put together to rank all of his POF matches. Points for tennis, points for hiking, etc. Even though I lost a point for being over 50 miles... blah... blah... blah.
He asked me where in the US I would live and then told me he is concerned because he might interview for a job in the United States, but he won't if I wouldn't want to live there... I told him we just met and I shouldn't even be a consideration.
He told me I seemed very guarded and he wishes I could open up my heart the way he has.
He asked what I am feeling. I told him he is moving too fast and he needs to slow down.
No chemistry.
He asked to see me again but didn't offer a specific time and date, so I don't need to make a decision yet.
Think I should give him one more shot to see if chemistry develops? Or would that be leading him on?"
I thought I'd share this message from one of the ladies in an online dating group I belong to.
It shows precisely what a man shouldn't do on a second date! This email from the dating trenches, as it were.
It's hard for women to deal with men like this, because although this man is a "nice guy" he doesn't seem to know anything about generating attraction!
"Pete arrived at my house and brought me Hershey kisses and some nice desserts he bought at the food store.
A big turn-off--he smelled very strongly of moth balls--yuck!
We drove down to the river and walked along the bank for about an hour and then wandered into the downtown.
Then we had a nice dinner.
He took half a vacation day to come see me today. He was as polite and chivalrous as he was on our first meeting.
He is way head over heels and I heard too many details about his personal life.
Heard about every operation he's had. I saw all the pictures on his smartphone--including one of him with his ex-wife.
He was married for 27 years and I am only the 5th woman he has dated. I am the only woman he has dated a second time.
He told me how much alimony he is paying--a lot--he must be making good money, LOL!
He talked about his divorce a lot. I kept changing the subject and he kept saying "I know. I know. I shouldn't be talking about this."
He even told me about the excel spreadsheet he put together to rank all of his POF matches. Points for tennis, points for hiking, etc. Even though I lost a point for being over 50 miles... blah... blah... blah.
He asked me where in the US I would live and then told me he is concerned because he might interview for a job in the United States, but he won't if I wouldn't want to live there... I told him we just met and I shouldn't even be a consideration.
He told me I seemed very guarded and he wishes I could open up my heart the way he has.
He asked what I am feeling. I told him he is moving too fast and he needs to slow down.
No chemistry.
He asked to see me again but didn't offer a specific time and date, so I don't need to make a decision yet.
Think I should give him one more shot to see if chemistry develops? Or would that be leading him on?"
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