Men are confusing.

Last week I was having this conversation with a friend. She's a beautiful, smart and successful woman but on this night she had a problem.

"Why would a guy ask to get together and then on the day, he completely ignores you? Is he playing with me?"

I love this question because there's a lot going on psychologically underneath any kind of ambiguity in a person.

If a guy says X and does Y, granted he didn't just "forget" and something important or otherwise uncontrollable happened on his end. You bet he is having conflicting thoughts.

The conflict is:

"I want to do X BUT doing X may lead to pain."

Human beings are driven by pain and pleasure. We therefore want to avoid pain or gain pleasure. One is usually stronger than the other. Often a particular thing contains both pain and pleasure but depending on what we focus on and think about one tends to override the other.

If a guy tells you he likes you but then ignores you for the next 2 weeks. He is avoiding you for the basic reason that if he pursues you, he believes he will get "hurt".

For example:

* He may need to break up with his current girlfriend if he pursues you (pain)
* He may believe he'll fall in love with you and get hurt (pain)
* He also likes someone else (pain)
* He worries about what other people will think (pain)

There are MANY reasons a guy may stagnant on progress.

Most of which are reasons he is hiding from you.

So is there anything you can do so he will stop playing these games with you?

Yes!

Step 1: Trigger Within Him Emotional Attraction

There's many layers to attraction, he may have been attracted to you physically, he may be attracted to your personality, but can you attract him emotionally? This is where his HEART is. To really reach his heart and make him truly fall in love with you would put an end to all of his wishy-washy behaviour.

This can easily be done by understanding how men think and what he truly needs in order to "fall in love".

Step 2: Make Him Attach Pleasurable Thoughts to Being With You

What makes a woman completely pleasurable for a man? In a way that makes him unable to stop thinking about you, can't wait to see you and make him desperately figure out a way to make you his and win YOU over?

You need to understand what "signs" a man looks for in a woman that tells him "she could be the one". When a guy sees these signals, he will quickly forget about all the other girls and focus solely on her.

What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!