If someone accused you of being good with women, would there be enough evidence to convict you of being "guilty as charged"?

It sounds like a silly question based on a somewhat contrived analogy, but the more you think about it the more poignant it becomes.

Like you, I hear guys talking about their exploits and escapades (or is that sexploits and sexcapades?) with women all the time.

Perhaps ironically, it's generally true that the more guys feel the need to talk about their prowess with MOTOS (members of the other sex) the less truth there is behind their words.

For starters, you may not ever actually, physically observe them getting any positive attention from women at all, let alone see them with one by their side.

But waiting to see if such guys get anywhere with real, live women isn't usually even necessary to "acquit" them from any guilt regarding success with them.

This may or may not shock you, but I can tell within about three minutes whether or not a guy is truly successful with women or not--and that goes double for guys who are actually out there marketing their services as pickup artists or dating experts.


The tell-tale signs are found in the way they articulate their understanding of male/female interaction--whether it's based on male assumptions alone or a combination of how men AND women tend to think.

What sounds like good strategy with women to guys who have seen very little real-world success with them is one thing.

What guys who really do find success with them know to be truly effective is something else altogether.

The difference? Men with little success think like guys all the time. If something would work on them, they assume it would work on women. If something is the case for them, they assume it's the case for women.

Meanwhile, the man who is popular with women is experienced enough to perceive the real, actual patterns women follow. Many of those patterns are astounding--even flatly unbelievable--to men until they
see them in the real world.

So the fact remains: Were the vast majority of men dragged before a judge and accused of being "good with women", no prosecuting attorney would be able to present enough evidence--be it in the form of actions or words--to convince a jury of it.

And yes, it is the majority of men who are bad with women. So much so that we as men are generally presumed "innocent" until proven "guilty" by our peers, right?

Worse, we're genuinely lousy at removing "all reasonable doubt".

But now here's something even more remarkable.

I believe that it would be similarly impossible to compile enough "incriminating evidence" to convict many, many men of not being good with women either.

That's right.

I talk to countless dudes who believe they're hopeless with women, yet they haven't ever really even tried so much as to approach one lately.

Whenever they're attracted to a hottie--whether in public OR in their social circle--they clam up rather than making their interest and/or their intentions known.

Therefore, their "lack of success" with women is purely self-imposed, never having been put to the test.

Maybe one or the other of the "charges" levied in this article hit you squarely between the eyes.

But if there's not enough evidence to incriminate you, you're not guilty.

While that is bad news for your current situation with women, the good news is that you're indeed free to go.

In fact, let me personally let you off "Scot free", if you'll pardon the really, really bad pun.


That's good news because now you can go create some

"evidence" for next time.

No worries about that, however. If someday you're ever really found "guilty", I think you'd like what you were sentenced to: A lifetime of amazing, fulfilling relationships with high quality women.

What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!