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Basically, what we're talking about here is their instinctual ability to read what's going on around them during a play so as to somehow discern order from what others may see as pure chaos.
This, as you might imagine, gives them a devastating advantage when it comes to making spot decisions in the moment that lead to a perfectly executed play.
If you've ever heard an NBA commentator speak of a point guard as if he's "got eyes in the back of his head", he's talking about the very same thing.
But no matter what sport we're talking about, it's invariably "field vision" that separates the very best playmakers on the field from the also-rans.
So what does this have to do with you getting better at meeting women and igniting femininity?
Well, despite my stubborn reticence to refer to a strong skillset with women as "having game", I'm going to bend the rules a bit today...if only for the sake of making a point.
You see, just like on the sports field you're going to need to master the functional equivalent of "field vision" when you're IN-field meeting women.
Let's call this specialized version "approach vision", as I think it describes what's called for perfectly.
First off, consider one of the most damaging mistakes that most of us tend to make when contemplating whether or not to approach a woman we have our eye on.
That is that we focus inwardly rather than outwardly.
Think about it. It's SO true. Man...when we see a woman we know we want to meet and start feeling the "butterflies", all we can think about is finding the perfect thing to say and not messing up.
Ye olde "analysis paralysis" kicks into high gear in a jiffy, and we're suddenly extremely nervous. The introspective "civil war" is on at that point, right?
Never mind the simple fact that many, many guys wimp out at that point, for reasons I just described. Let's assume for now that we fight through that inward self-talk and actually DO the approach.
Because our energy is focused on keeping our own powder dry in that situation, it's almost invariably the case that we completely neglect to assess the situation around us in the moment.
In the name of keeping our act together, we simply take a deep
breath and we soldier through delivering our opener...and once done, we immediately move to a frantic state of all-out panic scrambling to figure out what to say next.
That is, if we can even form those thoughts through the fear of imminent rejection.
To cut to the chase here, if the crazy example I just laid out sounds hauntingly familiar your sense of "approach vision" needs work.
Don't be too hard on yourself here, though.
Let's just say that for any quarterback, acquiring amazing composure in the pocket requires an immense amount of game day experience.
Throw you or me in this coming week's game as an emergency backup, and my educated guess is that as soon as we took that first snap we'd pretty much white out and spike the ball the instant we saw two pro-bowl linebackers hurtling in our direction.
That's because we wouldn't have nearly enough experience at dealing with a situation like that. The intensity would melt our faces off.
Well, meeting women is no different. With time, you really do begin to relax and stop gripping so hard over the possibility of screwing up.
That cool, calm, relaxed demeanor is the first step to developing effective "approach vision".
Once you ease off from the analysis loop driven by fear and inexperience, something magical starts happening.
You begin to pay more attention to the woman you're approaching.
Remember, women are hardwired to follow our lead. So if YOU'RE horrified and nervous, that's how SHE'S likely to feel when you approach her. If YOU are pessimistic about her actually liking you, SHE'S likely to agree.
It's safe to say that just like in the NFL, if you "white out and spike the ball" when meeting a woman you'll get nowhere.
However, the basic foundational skills associated with "approach vision" allow you to actually read how the woman is responding to you. You can focus on making sure she is comfortable in your presence and enjoying your company.
Do you see how that level of composure really would separate the champions from the "bench warmers"?
But there's more to it, of course. And here's the golden factor that even guys who are genuinely good with women often overlook.
A true master of "approach vision" will also evaluate everything else going on around him when approaching a woman. That's right...the focus isn't only on the two of them.
As such, he is careful to socially engineer the scenario as necessary before actually talking to a woman instead of just blindly jumping into the situation.
You want examples, and I've got 'em.
Without "approach vision", you might wait until you pay up front and are about to leave before getting her number.
But since her boss is standing right next to her at the cash register, she'd quickly change the subject and you'd leave empty-handed. Tragically, she may have actually wanted to
continue the conversation with you, but couldn't because she'd get in trouble.
You will have just flat-out fumbled on the play.
A skilled "field general" would have asked the woman to help him find something in a corner of the store away from where the boss was, and gotten her number in that more discreet setting.
Or how about if you see a woman seated at a restaurant by herself? Your first impulse may be to walk up to her, acknowledge that
eating lunch alone is never any fun, and invite yourself to sit down--
all in the name of brightening her day.
That's a great plan...and one I've followed through with myself on many occasions in the past. It works like a charm.
BUT...without "approach vision", her husband might return from the rest room right as you're blurting out the first sentence to her.
The all-pro quarterback in a situation like this would have waited and watched for several minutes just to see that the coast was really clear.
Further, even if a guy did come and sit with her, skillful "approach vision" would help you hang in there and gauge what the actual relationship between the two was before automatically bailing out.
And how about this? Here's a real-world example from a recent coaching call.
You go to your favorite sandwich shop at high noon as usual, when it's pretty crowded. I mean, hey...that's your typical routine at the usual time.
But today you're caught by surprise. They've hired an amazingly sexy girl behind the counter who seems to be acting extra
friendly toward you.
Standing next to her is some dorky male coworker. Looming behind you are two dozen hungry worker-bees who probably have about 12 minutes to get their lunch, choke it down and get back on the job.
Without "approach vision", you'd probably force the issue and try to get her number no matter what.
But if you're a master of what we're talking about here you would save your breath...temporarily.
Rather than hamfist things right then and there, you'd return about 1:30 the next day, when the lunch rush had all but subsided. If the woman works day shift on weekdays, the chances are good she'll be there. (And if not...you know where she works and there will be another day.)
And if the dorky male coworker is there also, "approach vision" will allow you to realize that he's probably been drooling all over the poor girl since she was hired. And what has she likely said to him to keep him at bay? You guessed it: "I have a boyfriend".
Knowing that, you send the guy into the back to find you some freakin' "hoagie hots" or whatever.
Then, with a nice quiet setting, you casually tell the hottie behind the counter that you'd like to talk to her sometime when she's not on the clock, when she wouldn't even have to make you a sandwich. She gleefully writes down her number and hands it to you--all without having blown her cover.
"Approach vision". It's the "intangible" that separates the men from the boys when it comes to meeting women. Importantly, it's often also what separates the alleged "naturals" from the "keyboard jockeys".
Having read all of this, can you see how powerful what I've just shared with you actually is? Getchasum...
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!