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  • How To Be A Cooler Guy...Immediately

    Today I've got one of those rare but wonderful nuggets of knowledge that can actually bring you immediate gratification.

    That's right...INSTANT results. There's no hard work, practice or memorization necessary.

    It's a simple mindset adjustment that'll make everyone you meet stop and think to themselves, "Man, is that ever a cool guy."

    Here it is:


    Be both INFORMED and INQUISITIVE when interacting with others.


    So what does that really mean? As promised, it's simple.

    Being perceived as cool is not only about coming off as sharp and interesting, it's even MORE about making the person you're talking to FEEL sharp and interesting him or herself.

    So first off, if you have some knowledge about what's interesting to that person, that will reassure them that you find their gig interesting. You therefore build rapport.

    Weirdly, a lot of people try to HIDE whatever knowledge they have of another person and/or their interests out of fear that it'll make them seem like a "fan boy".

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ID:	12784They worry about skewing the balance of personal power in the other person's direction.

    But see, it's being INQUISITIVE that restores balance, actually giving YOU the power even as you make the other person like you better.

    That's because while you, in essence, offer that you know SOMETHING of what interests him or her, you also allow for the other person to illuminate YOUR interest with even more information. You give THEM the chance to look like an expert.

    So then, you've got just enough knowledge about the person to engage them intelligently up front, BUT you are also all about allowing them to demonstrate how amazing they are to you.

    It's not like you've obsessed over this person and what he or she is passionate about.

    It's just that you're neither in the dark about it or as much of an expert as they are.

    Voila...the next thing you know the other person is busy working for YOUR approval, even as he or she thinks you're wonderful for validating him or her straightaway.

    To drive home the power of this approach to relating to others, let's consider the opposite: IGNORANCE combined with ARROGANCE.

    Think about it. Is there anyone who could possibly be harder to endure socially than someone who thinks he's better and smarter than everyone else, but who is actually dead wrong?

    Right after the unfortunate Boston Marathon bombing a couple of years ago, certain media outlets published photos of two teenaged boys who appeared to fit the description of who police were searching for.

    It wasn't long before the two kids were completely cleared of any wrongdoing.

    Yet, for weeks afterward they and their families were fearing for their lives because of certain dumb asses who didn't get the memo and were posting threatening messages to them on Facebook.

    Some were spewing invective even while lecturing them on how to be a nicer human being. Others were telling them that they hope they rot in jail...or hell. Some went so far as to issue death threats.

    That's "ignorant arrogance" for you.

    Is it cool to sit in judgment of others to begin with? Of course not. But when someone does that from a position of complete misinformation it flat-out makes most normal people's blood boil. That's just exponentially more irritating.

    Nobody in that scenario ends up looking cool, do they?

    And let me tell you, I completely get that there are quite a few women out there who indulge in the height of "ignorant arrogance" pretty much habitually, just because of their looks.

    And my guess is that often serves as a miracle cure for "beauty vision" in the eyes of many self-respecting guys.

    Meanwhile, being INFORMED and INQUISITIVE makes everyone in the picture look good. As such, it wins friends and influences people.

    Make the decision right now to be that guy. Watch your social life improve right before your very eyes as a direct result. I can tell you with 100% certainty that your fortunes with high quality women will improve as well.


    What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!


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      As a mother of 2 children I found this article so informative to read.
      Thank you for posting.
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