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That's when to schedule a date. I mean, what are the best days--and specific times on those days--to arrange meetings with women?
The answer is "it depends", which is precisely why you may not have seen much written on this subject.
By now, however, you know how much I enjoy covering completely original topics and this certainly applies. So let's go for it.
The very first thing you want to do when planning what day and time to schedule the date is to ask several crucial questions. How to proceed will depend on the answers.
For starters, ask yourself, "What is the goal of this meeting?"
If you have met someone online and never seen her in person before, the goal should be to simply find out if there's any good reason to schedule a real date.
This means, of course, that the first meeting shouldn't be treated as a date per se, and therefore shouldn't be schedule as if that's what you have in mind.
For example, you'd want to meet Tuesday morning for coffee before work rather than Friday night at 7.30 pm. That way a brief timeline is firmly built in as opposed to the expectation that an entire evening is going to be spent together.
However, if on the other hand you've been dating someone for a while and you'd like to go exclusive with her, you'd do well to arrange a date where you've got plenty of time--perhaps on that weekend night where there's no question that she's been given first priority above and beyond any other women.
This leads to the second question, naturally. "What priority am I giving this particular woman I'm going to meet with?"
Let's face it, how much you're into any particular woman will contribute to the kind of vibe you want to send out when together on dates. Therefore your strategy as to when to schedule those meetings must be in line with that.
If you're still on the fence about her, you may want to meet for lunch and/or drinks after work on weekdays, just so you have some quality time with her without that expectation for a long, drawn-out experience.
That's assuming, of course, that you know how to "decompress" from work effectively before meeting a woman shortly thereafter. If you haven't figured that out, then be sure to never schedule any after-work meeting with any woman.
But if you've got that part handled, it leaves those prime-time weekend evenings for women you're already pretty much psyched about.
And make no mistake, gentlemen. Weekend evening dates tend to send women into "steady girlfriend mode".
Meanwhile, when weekends are conspicuous by their absence from your dating schedule with a particular woman, she instinctively knows she's not being considered as "girlfriend material" just yet. Something to keep in mind.
The third question to ask is a two-part one. "What is the woman's lifestyle like, and how does it mesh with mine?"
Not everyone works 9-5. For example, if she's a waitress you're likely going to have to think out of the Friday/Saturday night box no matter how much you like her.
Such a woman may be the perfect candidate for one of my all-time favorite experiences to share with a woman: The laid-back Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date (I hesitate to use the acronym, but suit yourself).
Never underestimate the chemistry-packing potential of the Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date.
Bring your dogs out to the park together and see if they get along as well as the two of you do.
Or take an hour drive to the winery out in the country just to get away from the stress of town. Women will love you for planning this sort of thing...when all you had to do otherwise was sit around and watch sports on a Saturday afternoon anyway.
Face it. BOTH of you need to get out of the house, and this does the trick.
On the other hand, a certain woman you are dating may be, say, a flight attendant. This presents yet another scheduling challenge.
The bad news is she'll be gone for three days in a row, and probably never the same ones from week to week. BUT...the good news is she'll also be completely open on the days she IS in town.
This means that if you're not exactly a 9-5 guy yourself, you can feel free to schedule that Holy Grail of amazingly decadent events with the decidedly mischievous vibe...the one that invariably supercharges chemistry to the max.
I'm talking, of course, about the infamous Weeknight Date That Begins At 11pm And Ends Around Dawn.
If her name is "Dawn", so much the better if she's around at the end...but I digress.
Heck, even if you are a 9-5 guy it's worth planning a day off from time to time just to experience this once in a while. Suffice it to say that nothing ignites femininity more when it's done right.
And by "done right", I mean get a drink or two, listen to some live music, then walk hand-in-hand in your town at 2am with nobody else on the street like you own the place.
That is, of course, unless your "town" is like a war zone that's freaking dangerous to walk around in at 2am.
Anyway, assuming you've got the right kind of town to wander around in, make her laugh too loud and feel like she's probably waking everyone up. Then kiss her to make sure things quiet down.
Magical. Memorable. Incredible. You can imagine where such an evening can lead.
No matter what kind of schedule your lifestyle and hers are on however, you always do well to know exactly what a woman's timeline looks like when planning a meeting with her.
For instance, it's a good idea to know if she's got a 6am flight to catch on a Saturday morning before assuming she'll be able to stay out all night on Friday. See what I mean?
Here are a few final "silver bullets" for you.
First, if you are budget-minded, realize that a woman's potential expectations that money will be spent are highest for evening dates, especially weekend evenings.
To make a great first impression while genuinely getting to know a woman, the casual daytime dates are almost always the biggest winners.
Second, if you have a sneaking suspicion that a date has the potential not to end well for any reason, yet you want remain optimistic assuming it will, I'd highly suggest scheduling the meeting for early evening.
That way, whether it's on a weeknight OR a weekend, if things get cut short sooner than later you'll still have the opportunity to make the most of the evening otherwise with whatever "back up plan" you choose.
So for example, you may be somewhat intrigued by a woman but have felt a strange vibe from her over the phone for the past couple of days.
You meet for a quick "happy hour" drink at 5.30 on Friday night with the agenda purposefully left open for the rest of the evening.
If things get weird or flat-out fly south, you can be over and done with the whole thing by 7. But if everything's cool after all, you can continue to hang out with her for a while longer. Not bad either way.
Finally, the flip-side to allowing that built-in margin for error on a date would be scheduling a first meeting with a woman that you have the gut feeling may turn out very well.
A weekend morning breakfast meeting is the golden ticket here.
Think about it. It's a casual type of first date that gives the first impression that the meeting is meant to be a short one.
But if you really hit it off, you can bounce to Starbucks for a better second round of coffee than IHOP had.
If that goes well, the Outdoor Weekend Afternoon Date can kick in later.
I'm telling you, this is a masterpiece.
I have fond memories of several Saturday morning breakfasts that morphed into all-day events, with the woman becoming a pleasant part of my life for weeks or months thereafter.
In fact, I still have the receipt for the $14.63 spent at IHOP the first time I ever met Emily.
Remember, if you are a man then you don't have to worry as much about leaving her wanting more as other guys do.
Instead, if you really dig the woman you met at breakfast, you can make her practically fall in love with you by dinner. From there the only limits are your own.
So definitely give the decision to what day and time to schedule dates the attention it deserves.
The payoff is bigger than simply getting better control over your dating life. Getting this right can literally make or break how your relationships with specific women turn out.
What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below!